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Feng Shui Your Way to Organized by Marla Stone Orange County Professional Organizer, Feng Shui Specialist, Lifestyle Coach
Feng Shui Your Way to Organized by Marla Stone
The Feng Shui principles work to help space challenges or disturbances. It could be the home’s architecture, and or landscaping that can disturb the flow of the “chi” (good energy, thoughts, and ideas).
A Bagua (above) is the tool to identify specific areas of your space. The bagua tool, if used as a template for getting organized, and can help sort out your stuff in a most beneficial and functional way. Check out the e-book "ORGANIZE YOUR HOME WITH A FENG SHUI TEMPLATE" at http://www.i-deal-lifestyle.com/e-book.html Hold the bagua in your hands standing at the front entrance of your home to identify the 9 areas of your home. Visualize the Bagua Template placed over your floor plan, from the front of your home, where you enter. You will then be able to figure out if your front door is in the KNOWLEDGE and WISDOM, CAREER OR HELPING PEOPLE AND TRAVEL AREA. If you are standing at your front entrance and the door is to the far left you are entering through KNOWLEDGE and WISDOM. If your front door is in the middle of the home, you are entering through CAREER and if your front door is to the right of the home's front then you enter through HELPING PEOPLE AND TRAVEL. So if you can identify the bottom part of the bagua the rest of the floor plan will be easily identified, IF, AND ONLY IF, you have a rectangular or square home. But here's the thing, most of us do not have a perfectly rectangular or square home, and even if we do a second floor may have some part missing unless it duplicates the first floor exactly. So what do you do if some part of your home is missing a Bagua area or over extends outside of the Bagua area? Check out the e-book http://www.i-deal-lifestyle.com/e-book.html to find out how to solve the Feng Shui Faux Pas challenges of your space.
Placement of items such as furniture, trees, vases, equipment, family photos, books, chairs, desks, tables, lighting, artwork, electrical equipment, telephones, wires have to be thought out in order to protect the “chi” from affecting the inhabitants. Open doors rooms must be protected if they are facing stairwells so the “chi” does not leave the space. Windows or mirrors facing each other in rooms, or no windows at all keep energy keyed up. Landscaping faux pas, for instance a tree in front of your front door blocks any good energy from coming into the home. Furniture placed in a blocking way instead of open to the entrance of a room can impact you in a fierce way. A friend had his couch blocking part of the entrance to his front door (career area) and his business dropped in sales significantly. When I saw the placement of his couch I asked him if he was having business challenges and he asked "How did you know?" Well that is what a Feng Shui Specialist knows! For instance when you walk into a room and the back of a couch faces you, it is not only a block in that part of your Bagua, it symbolizes things that just keep coming up from behind, challenges that come "out of the blue", and it is just poor decor in most cases. If there is absolutely no other way to place the couch, then you must have a mirror placed so that, when siting on the couch, you can look into the mirror to see the entrance or door to the room. Also the colors of your walls interior and exterior, types of objects, odd shaped rooms, beams or sharp
corners, where the bathrooms or kitchens are located, and what is painted in a
painting, depending on where the painting is placed, can all affect the energy
and prosperity, health, relationships, recognition, personally and
professionally, for all who work or live in the space.
Going deeper into Feng Shui you would want to know the year your home was built, and determine the best position for your bed by calculating your birthdate information.
the building faces, can determine fortune or misfortune, even if it looks
aesthetically pleasing. Feng Shui can be utilized to correct most architectural, landscaping, decor challenges you have., while enhancing all areas of your self and space.with the building or home.
Getting help from a Feng Shui specialist can help you with what you choose to bring into your home or what to get rid of. What kind of art you choose is your choice, but some pieces of art may not reflect your intentions for your space. Each piece of decor has different colors and is made of different elements and can be matched to the best area of your home possible. Plants and or trees in and outside of your home can be placed for better energy flow or symbolize
positively or negatively based on where it is placed. What kind of furniture you choose can mean good or bad health to those that utilize the furniture.
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Green Living Practices are essential to the health of the space and
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Let’s get you some great chi and/or let’s just have some tea!
Feng Shui for organizing business will be fun, exciting and stirring. A business organizer who uses the principles of Feng Shui understands intricate aspects of your furniture placement and where the executive staff are best seated.
Focusing on what kinds of objects and furniture are in your office and what they mean to you is important. Finding belongings in your office that bring you great pleasure and that you love is key. Placing the objects, you love, in specific places, will bring increased well being, prosperity, business connections and employee and customer satisfaction.
Life is to short to be surrounded by personal or professional belongings that you find depressing, a burden, or that you simply "like". Keeping things you truly love around you will create energy, clarity and focus. A shift will occur just in moving items around until there is a great flow and energy created.
Having a flow and space to breathe and feel whole is essential to staying organized, in-tune with your surroundings and it enhances an ideal lifestyle and work ethic.
An ideal lifestyle is created by aligning your values with your goals and achieving all that you want in life. http://www.i-deal-lifestyle.com is just the place to learn more about that.
Feng Shui may help you gain new community relationships, decrease employee turnover, help you leverage your work force, with retaining clients and gaining power within your field. Feng Shui is used by many Hollywood Stars and Billionaires so their dwellings and offices have a feeling of luxury, space and overall ease.
Feng Shui may be used to unlock and eliminate:
chronic disorganization, symptoms of Attention Deficit Disorder, Depression, Anxiety, loveless relationships, not having enough money, poor health, cluttering patterns, unhealthy family relationships, learning challenges, symptoms of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, Insomnia, not having enough support, and challenges being creative with yourself and others. If you or any of your loved ones or employees suffer from these symptoms call Marla Stone at 949-709-7000 for a free consultation.
Feng Shui is an Ancient Science and Art created in China over 3000 Years ago. Marla Stone is a Feng Shui Specialist, mixing her 25 + Year Knowledge with Interior Décor and Professional Organizing as well as her background as a Social Worker and Therapist.
Your home will be in perfect order with Feng Shui Designs by Marla Stone and her team of Professional Organizers, Lifestyle Coaches, Feng Shui and Interior Décor Specialists.
"We move your business forward with Up-Cycling, Re-Cycling, swapping out older furniture that has grown old and outdated for upgraded furniture that will create your ideal setting for Your Today Taste.
Feng Shui helps with the energy and flow of your office space, creating synergy and uplifted employees and customers. Your space is a reflection of your company and what it stands for.
Einstein did have a cluttered desk and when he heard a saying "a cluttered desk is a sign of a cluttered mind", his response was "so does that mean an empty desk is a sign of an empty mind". Our answer is your desk may be cluttered and overwhelming when you are in the process of creating and working on projects, but at the end of the day have a place to clear the contents. A home for everything is good, a system for papers is smart and coming into the next day with a fresh, clean desk is always a good thing. We are never completely clutter free, paperless but having a system is really key to getting and staying organized. Being organized definitely creates an affinity for excellence.
Having an assessment to check out your office space is important since furniture placement and where your executive staff are seated could mean increase in revenue, closing lucrative deals, staying ahead of your competition or just being able to relax more in your busy work schedule. Call now for a free 30 minute phone consultation or email firstname.lastname@example.org
Feng Shui Orange County serves the following cities locally:
Aliso Viejo, Anaheim, Brea, Buena Park, Capistrano Beach, Costa Mesa, Coto De Caza, Cypress, , Dana Point, Foothill Ranch, Fountain Valley, Fullerton, Garden Grove, Huntington Beach, Irvine, La Habra, La Palma, Ladera Ranch, Laguna Beach, Laguna Hills, Laguna Niguel, Laguna Woods, Lake Forest, Los Alamitos, Mission Viejo, Monarch Beach, Newport Beach, Newport Coast, Orange, Placentia, Rancho Santa Margarita, San Clemente, San Juan Capistrano, Santa Ana, Seal Beach, Stanton, Talega, Tustin, Villa Park, Westminster, Yorba Linda, Seal Beach, Long Beach, Palos Verdes, Redondo Beach, Hermosa Beach, Manhattan Beach, Torrance, Santa Monica, Beverly Hills, Pacific Palisades, Hancock Park, San Diego, Los Angeles
Marla Stone is a Professional Organizer, Decor and Feng Shui Specialist, and Lifestyle and Productivity Coach
Learning Feng Shui is easy when you have a teacher that makes it easy. Learning Feng Shui in depth can take years, just like learning a language. But the basics of understanding the Bagua (floor plan map) of your home and or office is quite easy. Basic Feng Shui will teach you how to set up any home, business or office space properly. Understanding the basics will teach you how to place furniture, which direction furniture pieces like desk, bed and couch should face, and what objects belong where and what objects can be eliminated and or added. Basic Feng Shui will help you understand each area of a home and what it represents. Recognizing each space, room, home, business, office is divided into 9 equal parts helps you understand what activities would be best accomplished in what part of each space.
You will understand that the 9 areas of any space are Love and Relationships, Fame and Recognition, Prosperity, Children and Creativity, Health, Family, Helping People and Travel, Career and Skills and Knowledge, and how each area affects you, your life and family. You will understand how to navigate the Bagua Map and find out how to locate the above areas in any space you go into. You will be able to Feng Shui your own space easily and quickly. Friends, family and clients will marvel at your skill level, your intuitive process and how you will help them re-purpose furniture and set up the furniture so there is a more aesthetic and creative design.
Asking yourself, "does this stuff really work?" Well, it is an ancient Science and Art originally named in China over 4000 years ago. The principles of Feng Shui are used in many cultures, by famous people, and business owners all over the world. Going into peoples homes for years I realized some people, who have never even heard of Feng Shui do it naturally, while other lack any kind of energy and flow and live in chaos and discomfort. When I give Feng Shui tips, ideas and suggestions to the latter clients, often they remark "that's how I used to have the space set up". I find that with grief and loss, divorce, life changing events many times people undo their good energy and flow and create a space that reflects their sorrowful inner self. Helping people get back an ideal living space is the main goal of Feng Shui Specialists. Helping people increase wellness in their health, relationships, family, children, loved ones, creativity, wealth, at work and school is the aim and point of Feng Shui.
Feng Shui is a great way to purge items that do not belong in your space. Pictures of sad and lonely people, fake plants and flowers, items that hold negative memories, or objects that just don't reflect your being or nature tend to have a dampening affect on the energy of the space and the occupants. Many of my clients tend to keep items around that are never used, don't serve a purpose, not sentimental and that they just don't love, but they have difficulty parting with them. Feng Shui makes editing fun and easy. You will learn how to de-clutter with Feng Shui principles.
Getting better energy and flow to all areas of your home, business, office is a great idea, and you will learn how to do it yourself. A Feng Shui teacher will come into your home, office or business and teach you on-site all the tricks of the trade and get your space Feng Shui'd on the spot. The Feng Shui teaching packages are 4 hours for $299.00 6 hours for $425.00 and 8 hours for $550.00.
You will know every aspect of Feng Shui that you can possibly absorb in your session. You will be able to perform Feng Shui for a deserving family member, and or friends. You will be able to practice Feng Shui independently by the time your session(s) end. Wouldn't this be a fun gift for you and or someone you love. You will also get an I-Deal-Lifestyle Feng Shui Specialist Certificate so you can go into a Feng Shui business, or just help family and friends with confidence. On-going consultations with a Feng Shui Specialist over Skype, telephone or email is always available by appointment.
Working with a Feng Shui Master, Feng Shui Teacher, and a Feng Shui Specialist is the best way to learn how to do Feng Shui. Find out more about getting a free 30 minute consultation to become a Certified I-Deal-Lifestyle Feng Shui Specialist now at 949-709-7000 or email email@example.com.
Getting your home prepared and decorated with Feng Shui Interior Design will most likely include some de-cluttering. I-Deal-Lifestyle is prepared to get you organized from the inside out and the outside in. De-cluttering involves sorting all your belongings into like categories. We empty your space of all items, categorize and then create containment systems for the categories so they do not shmoosh back together and create clutter chaos again.
Once you are categorized, prior to the containment, you are able to go through your items to determine if they are "good" Feng Shui. "Good" Feng Shui means that the items have great energy and they create a happy feeling when you see them. "Good" Feng Shui also means great furniture and decor placement. Great furniture and decor placement creates a good energy and flow to each room. Feng Shui placement also includes placement of items that are symbolic of the Bagua of your home. The Bagua is simply a template that divides your home into 9 equal parts. You start from your front door to determine where your 9 areas are located. It sounds complicated but it is really quite easy to locate the 9 areas.
The nine (9) Bagua areas are
Skills and Knowledge
Call I-Deal-Lifestyle, Feng Shui Specialist Marla Stone for a free 30 minute phone consultation and find out which part of your home is Prosperity now at 949-709-7000.
Marla can teach you Feng Shui over the phone and Skype and do an assessment of your home or business space via email anywhere in the world.
We have locations in Venice Beach, Santa Monica, Newport Beach, Irvine and San Clemente.
Going discount shopping for decor via craigslist, Facebook stores and groups, and consignment is the decorator trend. Finding what you love is the key. Knowing what you love is divine intervention.
Southern California's ever changing interior design trends are currently switching over to a more transitional approach for decorating a business and residence properties. Incorporating modern elements and accessories with ornate antique pieces, painted in a matt finis, is an up and coming trend in the retail store styles of home furnishings and decor. With simple touches of the old and new combined it helps create a unified look for both old and new generations to enjoy. The goal when renovating or redecorating a home is to create an appealing space with a new and universal look. Designers and stylist have found that there are plenty of new ways to incorporate the past with the present, but doing it with a splash of innovative creativity is the key. Renovated public malls, restaurants, hotels, and large chain home furnishing retail stores are the best places to look for design inspiration. Recently on a trip to Harrods Department store in London Marla Stone, owner of www.i-deal-lifestyle was amazed at the unique and lovely designs room by room, floor by floor.
Just know this, you know what you like and what you do not like. Just stick with that kid!
Most people make the biggest mistake, in decorating, by saying that your furniture is completely out of date if you bought it 20+ years ago. Looking around on ads on craigslist you will see that there is a lot of potential in the custom handcrafted furniture. By adding a coat of new paint or creating a faux rustic finish to an antique heirloom can save you $1000's on the in-store retail prices of today. With I-Deal-Lifestyle we provide you with the option to recreate a functional space with green design and the proper decor touches for an organized living space.
I-Deal-Lifestyle's design approach to Feng Shui principles helps you with the furniture placement aspect of designing a room by creating a proper circulation pattern. Meaning that if the room "just doesn't feel right" or your find yourself constantly walking around a table or couch on a daily basis it probably means that your room is not setup properly. The scale of home furnishings is another dilemma that most new home owners find when they are either downsizing their home or simply buying a house that is too large for their recent small scale furnishings. Knowing what items you own and the condition of each piece of furniture are vital to the decision making process for planning a design in a new or old space. It is also an investment when you are planning on refurbishing a specific piece that may or may not have been kept in the greatest condition. Simple things like "Do the drawers open?", "Is the fabric stained?", "Are the cushions still comfortable?" are the three basic questions that will cover the basis of knowing what to keep if any functional piece of furniture you own.
When determining the use of a piece of decor that simply serves the aesthetic purpose of sitting on a table or hanging on a wall it tends to be the more sentimental items that homeowners often have a more difficult time making decisions whether to donate or keep. All you have to do to figure out if it is truly an item worth keeping is first "DO YOU LOVE IT?" If yes it is an accessory that will play a vital role in determining the colors scheme and style that you want your new space to be designed around. Finding that one piece that you love can tell any designer or decorator a lot about your personal interest in what you can see yourself looking at and living around everyday of your life. The biggest misconception in design, for people who are not in creative field, and are more functional and practical based people, is that they say they have no objectivity when it comes to design. This is completely NOT TRUE! By keeping the above basic concepts in mind, for determining your taste, in what items your should keep and donate, you will be able to find your ideal style today.
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Recently I helped a woman looking for a home in Laguna Beach, last month in Irvine, and prior to that you name it I have helped people find homes from Malibu to La Jolla. Utilizing the skills of a Feng Shui expert is important not only for the skills that tell a person if the home is "good" feng shui but having the guidance of a sensitive person that understands real estate, values, design and function.
Growing up with a dad that has been a real estate developer for the past 60 years and a real estate appraiser husband has influenced my abilities to pick fabulous properties with investment written all over them. I understand people and also have great intuition when it comes to matching people with properties. Yes, I will get my real estate license to make it all come together. My main goal in helping people seek properties is that the land parcel and dwelling will work for them aesthetically, professionally, personally and for great investment prospects.
The first thing I do is understand what my client's values are, in life, personally, professionally and socially. If the client loves to entertain but they are looking at a home with small living room and dining areas, I will help them understand the home does not lend to large groups or even small intimate parties. If the family has growing kids that love athletics but the neighborhood is empty nesters with not a lot of grass options or other kids than lets look at more options and visa versa empty nesters looking for quiet in a noisy kid area with mowers and blowers going 24/7, I guide to different destinations.
Knowing my client is number one for me to help them get to the correct neighborhood, plot of land and space. A great and creative cook / entertainer is looking for large and functional kitchen, a person with physical functionality challenges doesn't want multiple levels. Sensitive to energy types don't want a bunch of power lines all around, and beach people don't want 30 minute away properties from the beach.
Honing in on personality helps identify neighborhood, city, and even state properties that will work for that client long term. It is not a one stop shop opportunity. It is not about the realtor paying of a second mortgage or sending a child to college or a new grand baby. Selling or locating property is all about client fit and client happiness.
The Feng Shui aspects most important in properties are rectangular or square lots and not lots that are triangular in shape, a home without another home hovering over the top of it, a home where the headboard of beds can be on walls not facing west, homes with stairs coming down to front door can be avoided, homes with fire pits or fireplaces in back of prosperity can be fixed with fountains or water features, encroaching properties, noisy street noise, damaged or destructed properties, choppy floor plans that would take a fortune to fix, homes with poor window to wall ratio, driveways where you have to back out backwards, no parking in area, homes at end of cul de sacs, and homes at a t. and homes below street level. There are Feng Shui fixes but why buy a home when you have to fix it, when there are so many on the market at any given time. Realtors who tell you there is not a lot of inventory, especially in Orange County are not always being authentic. Look on www.realtor.com and find your dream home and get some support from a Feng Shui expert to help you determine an exact fit to you and yours.
Marla Stone is a feng shui expert located in Irvine, and San Clemente serving all of California and beyond.
Call 949-709-7000 for a free Feng Shui phone consult now.
Having a messy and cluttered office space does not help you increase your business presence or the revenue. It only makes you look bad to your customers and cannot feel good to be in the middle of a chaotic over run office space. Even if you have no clients visiting your office and even if you are the only one that goes to your office it's not appropriate for you to work in a disorganized and cluttered place. Orange County Professional Organizers will help you get your office organized, your emails organized and get all the paper trails managed, boxes sitting everywhere put away in the correct spot or area and put you back into the driver's seat of your business with easy access to your office supplies, notes, information and anything that will create increased harmony, peace and money. Yes "Show Me The Money".
Business Organizers Orange County has many, but who do you call to help you? Well you call a Professional Business Organizer who will help you not only get organized but stay organized. Going paperless was the best thing I ever did. The old way is just far too demanding of time and just not a great method considering 80% of what we file we never access again. Organizing jobs usually can take 1 day to several weeks depending on the size and the amount of stuff you own in your office but the long lasting results make your life so much easier and happier. Organizers are natural planners and organizers usually from the start to their life. You may not be a natural at keeping organized so we coach you and teach you techniques to not re-clutter. This is what differentiates our services from other organizers. We have a proprietary method to keep you organized long term. We do not like repeat customers, we like referrals to new customers.
Getting your office space organized and getting furniture that helps the office look nice is important. It creates an organized atmosphere which stimulates you to stay on track with growing your business. Organizing files and eliminating what you do not use on a regular basis and that you can look up anytime on the internet will really be a great way to start any business organizing project. Understanding how to move towards paperless files and learn more about productivity and efficiency will be super helpful to your overall success as a business owner in Orange County.
To be or not to be with Clutter. There are so many Professional Organizer terms, thoughts, ideas and philosophies about why people have so much clutter and can't control it. Personally I believe clutter is comfort and discomfort all in one. It is a love / hate relationship with our stuff that is created as an easier love / hate relationship than with friends, family or people or relationships. Otto Rank was the person that started to understand how people perceived objects or even images in their mind to take the place of a personal relationship with mother or father, while Fairbairn coined the term "object relations". Melanie Klein a psychoanalytic genius theorist started to understand infants relationships with their mother's parts, and recognized that babies eventually realized that the breast, the child had been sucking on and having a relationship with, was part of the mother as a whole. The "independent" breast was initially the love object of the child, and not necessarily the mother in total. So as a theorist myself I surmise that as soon as the child realizes the breast is part of the mother, and has any contention with the mother, the breast is not as exciting, as it becomes associated with the mother.
Next, as you can surmise, any objects including bottle, bears, toys, teething rings, dolls, toy soliders, balls, puzzles and keys become the next independent objects the child loves. These objects are given to the child from the parents, but are not part of the mother or father, yet are controlled by the mother or father. So a new relationship forms with "independent" objects, although the objects, at the parent's discretion, turn up or slip away without the child's control. This lack of control over their loved objects make the child feel powerless at times and annoyed and frustrated so much so that when the love object returns there may be an unhealthy attachment that starts to form. We all know the "blankie, or binkie, or snuggly" blanket theory. Baby child is given a blanket to "comfort" them. Then the parents, at their own will, when recognizing the child's love attachment, to the blanket, may manipulate the blanket, as a tool, for conditioning the child to be obedient, furthering the unhealthy attachment to the blanket. The objects for children can be soothing to the child and an ally against the unhappiness the child feels with the parent training tactics. T
As the child gets older television, video games and phone become the number one object of focus and love for the child. If you think of Television as a "controlled substance" you can see clearly how the parent / child relationship surrounding watching t.v. can be distressed and disturbed. Obviously putting children in front of a TV or video game instead of healthful, mindful and playful interaction with the parents is a very bad idea. We now are a society that finds GREAT comfort with television. Television in small doses and with very creative programming can be a fun and delightful thing, but when it is about watching mindless, soap-operaish, drama wrenching stupidity it is definitely robbing your life away. In fact given a choice to choose Television over any other objects, in the long run T.V. would probably win.
In severe cases of object attachment there are people with significantly unhealthy relationships with objects. The objects have become allies against every person that is in their life or enters their life. The objects don't allow the home to be cleaned, they cause dangerous pathways, or no pathways. The objects become broken and pose possible injury, or they become dust suffocation objects. I have had numerous clients on breathing machines due to lung damage from all the dust their loved objects collect. So in essence the things they love the most are killing them literally. The blind love of the objects is like a person having a relationship with a batterer, becoming a victim of addiction and affliction. To have a home pile up, not be able to use the kitchen, the living areas and sometimes not even the bathrooms, but still go on living life as if nothing is wrong is denial in a large form. The people with object attachment often don't really care about their objects as much as they care about having them. They love the stuff they collect and they have so much of it that they can't even find the things they love the most. And in my research with the people that over-collect and make a big mess I get the love of stuff and the object attachment. If matter did not matter we would all live in Teepees and have a drum and skirt on with a possible peace pipe or two. Not to knock the American Indian lifestyle, as I am moving towards minimalism, but most people would eventually miss their bed, their couch, clothes, toys and their T.V..
So the work I have been doing with people that have "object attachment" as I call it, are working on identifying objects that are truly sentimental, or purely attachment, memory invoking, and or that have a real pull on them so they can go to the next step. They also realize the difference between needing to breathe, eat, sleep, get sun, eliminate, drink fluids and have shelter versus wanting things. They understand that NO objects are needs. The next step they realize is that the objects that trigger their emotional body never filled the hole of having inadequate relations with their mothers, fathers, brothers, sisters, friends and loved ones. The dolphins, cows, bears, jewelry, purses, shoes, clothes, books, records, papers are NOT GOING TO FILL THEM UP.
Then we symbolize the objects. Usually the dolphins mean frolic and play they are missing with others, the cows are the way they feel, happy, tail waving in the wind, but often eaten and ravaged. Bears replace the cuddling they are not getting or never really had, jewelry means they are rich and cherished, purses are about prestige and status and shoes about grounded and established, clothes are "I will be prettier or more handsome", records are "I'm interesting and or isolative and don't need anyone, but my music" and papers, well papers are "I will gain more knowledge and be smarter or informed". These are just examples and not how everyone would symbolize their own objects. Symbolism must come from the person, not from the Organizer or Coach.
Next we talk about a reasonable amount of stuff for one person. What is a reasonable amount of clothing for a retiree who rarely socializes? What is a reasonable amount of books for someone not currently reading and addicted to television? What is a reasonable amount of jewelry, bags and shoes for someone not earning a large income and has spending challenges? What are a reasonable amount of t-shirts for a woman of leisure? So most of the responses are "I will get to the objects someday?" My response is "when?" Then we agree on a reasonable amount of time it will take for them to realize the relationship they are having with the object and if it "space worthy". Like Elaine on Seinfeld understanding if a date was "sponge worthy" we look at objects to see if they are "space worthy". "Space worthy", meaning does it belong in your real estate? Defining the objects worth is worthy of your time.
The decision about what to do with stuff is the biggest challenge with people who accumulate too much for their spaces. I mean, Candy Spelling had a doll collection that was housed properly in a gazillion square foot room of her home. She had ample space for her dolls and they were all organized and categorized. The problem is that the average person does not have the luxury of that kind of space. So I tell the person "your stuff is "taking up your real estate". But still the attachment is there with the objects. So I get that nod of understanding that the objects are crowding them out of their space, but with no understanding of how to organize their spaces.
What helps a person with lots of objects and a lack of organization skills is understanding what is precious to them and what they have tired of. Finding objects in back of closets, under beds, in corners usually is a sign they tired of the object. Although delighted to see their object again, and of course the standard "I was looking for that", or "Oh that's where you were" statement they usually acknowledge that they had tired of that particular thing. Then there are the random objects they purchased or accumulated from others deemed O.P.S. (other people's stuff) that they are really not that attached to. Breaking attachment challenges to objects is no easy task and can't be undone in a day, so helping cluttered people and their spaces part with a 1/3 of their belongings is an achievement. Parting with the items that do not trigger large emotional responses is usually easy for people.
We talk about what is valuable (heirloom or just expensive and could fetch a pretty dollar), really meaningful (letters from a parent who died, or yearbooks, or moments), purposeful (things we all use on a regular basis, pens, paper, recipes, clocks, furniture, kitchen utensils, electronics), we talk about what is excess and that helps people make good decisions about what they keep, and why and what they do with it.
Then the last part of understanding what to do with the prized objects, after a good editing without any regrets, pushing or prodding, since the organizer or coach does not want to re-create the same parent / child type of object manipulation relationship over again, the objects, can become manageable with some great space planning, bringing in armoires, cabinets, drawers and proper space and containment for their goods. Pushing and prodding are replaced with thought provoking statements such as "tell me about this?" or "what does this symbolize?" or "what is a reasonable amount?" or "will this object fill your hole and make you whole again?" and "what will make you feel whole and happy again beside these objects?" is a great way to a clutter free space.
Marla Stone, MSW, Retired LCSW, Professional Organizer, Lifestyle Coach, Décor and Feng Shui Specialist is here to help you to find your ideal lifestyle. www.i-deal-lifestyle.com
Having your nails done, getting a facial, going to a spa, and or treating yourself to a fine dining experience are all services we want over and over again. These services are pleasurable and it makes one feel special, calm and fulfilled. Having a Lifestyle Organizer going through your belongings, one item at a time, may not sound like a service in the above categories, but most of my clients will tell you it is the greatest service they ever treated themselves to.
Having a home that is organized by a professional house organizer is a luxury service that you will want to experience. Having all your home items categorized and in spaces where they fit and belong makes life easier, helps you function optimally, creates an enhanced productivity and efficiency, and above all your home will look like a model home.
Reading books on organizing was a hobby of mine. I read literally hundreds of books and articles on creating a succinct and functional space, so my life could be free from searching for things, losing items, finding them haphazardly, and feeling perpetually frustrated ,like a hamster in a wheel with my stuff. I used many of the tips and ideas for getting organized while organizing my own home. I was able to see what worked and what did not. Some of the ideas made great sense, and some of the tips were for crazy making and not helpful at all.
Below is a list of ideas for organizing your self and space that do not work well and ideas that are better
When you are ready for a lifestyle overhaul know that it won’t be the same as going to a day spa and having your body and hair coifed, but in the long run it is something that will last a lifetime and you won’t have to do it more than once if it is done properly and with care. Organizing done well is time spent well and you will feel happy, like a million dollars!
Marla Stone earned her BA in Psychology and a Master's in Social Work and is the founder of I-Deal-Lifestyle, a Self and Space Organization Service.
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