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Self & Space
,Coming in to the world of clutter after being a therapist for 17 years gave me an eagle eye perspective on over-accumulating, collecting and obsessing over stuff. I came into the world of Professional Organizing in Southern California's South Orange County. People love their stuff, they love to wear it, show it off, display it, fondle it and focus on it. Stuff is what makes the world go round here. The first clients I worked with had enormous amounts of clothing, shoes, bags, knick knacks, crafts, books, collectibles, toys, gadgets, kitchen stuff, make-up, you name it. Many of them wanted me to "just deal with it" and to "put it way neatly." Client's with clutter thought hiding the stuff would solve their piles, stuffed drawers and their disorganized lives. They swore to me and the universe that they would stop shopping, ordering and stuffing their closets ever again. They swore they would fold and put away. They swore they would keep it up. They hoped that they would tame their chronic disorganization forever. Other clients wanted to throw all their stuff out the window. They wanted it "Out."
The two biggest questions most people have when dealing with their stuff is, "What do I do with it? and "What stays and what goes?" I wanted to help. I am a helper, that's what I do, help. But inside I was screaming "Help!" I wanted to be effective. I wanted them to be fixed. I am a fixer. So after using all the techniques I could find, in every kind of organizing book, none of them cured clutter permanently. The popular organizing solutions were temporary fixes. I knew there was a better way and I was determined to figure it out.
Folding things nicely, making things neat and tidy, and putting things away does not mean people will stay organized, long-term. Purging did not mean that people would not collect more and clutter again. I started to look at people's relationship with their stuff. I realized helping clients decide what to keep, rather than focusing on what to get rid of was a step towards chronic organization. Focusing on what to keep was not a popular idea but the "expert's" "get rid of it" philosophy was not working for my clients or me.
The main thrust of the Professional Organizing industry is to "get rid of stuff." One of the first networking meetings I ever attended, a very vocal organizer exclaimed "I made this woman get rid of almost everything today." I shuttered, thinking, wow, I wouldn't like that." I heard a lot of organizers expressing that they were hell bent on making sure client's pare down, eliminate, purge, edit, and donate. Organizers were as obsessed about having their clients get rid of stuff as their clients were about keeping it. I thought to myself, this tug of war philosophy over stuff is wrong and harmful. I wanted a different approach that focused on what was going to be kept, how it would be stored and easy to access. For goodness sakes we are talking about stuff not surgery. It's not my personal property, and therefore not my decision to tell someone what they can keep and not keep.
I became acutely aware that the clients who claimed that they wanted to get rid of "a lot" of their stuff were the ones that released the least. Other clients, hesitant about the process of purging gave away "the farm." From talking to a client I couldn't tell who was going to purge or cry, "I'm keeping it all."
The funniest technique in my organizing industry is to make piles. One for donate, one for keep, one for sell, one for give away, and one for "not sure." The piling and sorting process slowed us down. The clients and organizers were left overwhelmed and confused. I quickly realized whoever came up with the pile idea was literally insane. I kept searching for answers to an easy organizing process.
I laid awake one night to hear a loud thought, "Categorize." It made sense. No more piles, no more sorting, no more figuring out which pile was which. Most importantly, no more involving the client in the initial processing of their stuff. I would be responsible, as the organizer, to make it a seamless and easy process. So the I-Deal-Lifestyle method was born.
The method is simple. Clear the space, then categorize every single object. Then sub-categorize until all like objects are with like objects. Then, bring the client in to go through each category to decide what they will keep. When people see how much they have of each category and like items together it is easier for them to decide what they want to keep. When people are not being pushed to get rid of things they can make good choices. If people want to keep everything that is fine with this method. At the end, whatever is kept is contained and put away properly. What you use the most stays closest and what you use the least goes furthest away.
The stress of working with clients dropped 100 notches. The clients were fascinated by the rapid clearing of their space. They loved the process of seeing us categorize. They were happy with a criteria for what to keep.
I-Deal-Lifestyle Criteria for what to keep:
1. Is it used? How often
2. Does it serve a purpose?
3. Is it sentimental
4. Do you love it
Some clients who have large amounts of a particular category want to know how much to keep. I came up with the idea of asking them "What is a reasonable amount?" When you own 14 umbrellas, 60 picture frames or 12 pairs of black pants ask yourself, "What's a reasonable amount?" One client wanted all 14 umbrellas, but had a good reason to keep them. Her family visited her Oregon vacation home in droves. They all loved to go for walks, picnics and outings. It made sense to my client to keep all the umbrellas for those occasions.. It made perfect sense to me. My other client with the picture frames realized 60 was not a reasonable amount for her. She had meant to frame pictures of her kids, family and friends but after a divorce and a split in the family she decided that was "Never going to happen." So she kept a few and donated the rest. That made sense to me too.
The last part of the I-Deal-Lifestyle method is to say goodbye to what you no longer want to keep. Sometimes there is a little sadness for holding on so long, but the joy of staying organized for good takes over.
Marla Stone is an expert Self and Space Organizer in Orange County, California
Her website www.i-deal-lifestyle.com has tips and suggestions for your organizing projects.
I was in private practice from 2001-2010 working as a Psychoanalyst treating clients who wanted mental health treatment. In 2008 during the economic collapse clients came in complaining about losing their homes and jobs. It was a difficult time financially for many of my clients. A good percentage of the cliental expressed grief, rage and despondence due to losing their way in life. People were giving up hope, and having difficulty figuring out what they wanted in their personal and professional life. Some thought they had no future at all.
One of the favorite sayings during those years was "Think outside the box." Everyone believed that if they thought outside of a box they would gain more clarity and solutions. Instead I believed quite the opposite. I stated "Don't think outside the box, get rid of the box." One by one each "lost sheep" was directed to a local junior college career center to take extensive personality and career testing. One by one each of them recognized new career options, even better opportunities then they had ever imagined. Instead of sheep of doom they were more like excited kangaroos hopping back to the playing field. I couldn't help but catch some of that miraculous tailwind. I asked myself, "Who do I want to be when I grow up?" I realized 17 years of having a therapist hat on was my "box." I wanted to experience change also.
I stopped practicing in March 2010 and started a journey of self discovery. I first jumped into acting, something I hadn't done for many, many years. Oh what fun I had. I did four films, a handful of commercials and even a play. Imagine that; I was cast as a lead in the "Dixie Swim Club" after not being on stage for 25 years. I also had the great pleasure of meeting Henry Jaglom, a famous filmmaker and was cast in "The M Word," a film about menopause, which I realized I was experiencing. So "change of life" was an appropriate theme for me. Simultaneously to a budding acting career I took lots of classes to test out new careers and businesses.
While driving back and forth from Orange County to Hollywood I enrolled and took paralegal courses. I explored opening a restaurant. I took interior design and feng shui classes thinking I would open a design company. When I found out how much schooling and sitting in classes there would be I realized that years of schooling would not be a great option for me. I had been sitting for 17 years treating people and the thought of sitting years more was more than I could bare. So, if I couldn't be an attorney, restauranteur or Nate Berkus what was I to do? One day I was going to open a restaurant and the next I was going to Law School. Each box I tried on did not fit. I checked off one box after another. Finally after a lot of soul searches and screeches I found the Professional Organizing industry and realized this was a business I could enjoy and use my mental health background.
I met with Professional Organizers in Orange County. They were happy helping people de-clutter. I noticed they were like "old fashioned" social workers, the kind back in the 1800's. They were going in homes, businesses and helping not only with clutter but they were life coaching as well. They seemed happier than interior designers and not quite as happy as realtors, but indeed they were working and earning a nice living. The organizers were friendly, kind and gave me information to help me get started. I designed and built a website and wanted to know everything about social media. I learned search engine optimization and started writing a blog called Self & Space. I posted a lot about "Getting rid of the box," for people who were stuck in muck and literally living out of boxes. I started unpacking, packing, de-cluttering, decorating and coaching people to a more organized self and space. I realized quickly for the sake of clients not having conniptions that it was better to focus on what to keep and not what to get "rid" of. Although people are enthusiastic about purging some, more than others cling on to their useless items.
I named my company I-Deal-Lifestyle since I was helping to "deal out" how to live a more ideal lifestyle. The goal has always been and until today to help people get rid of their "boxes," whether physical or emotional with methods, exercises and techniques I created along the way. We want people them see themselves, their lives, their space and their objects clearly. The lifestyle coaching we do is to help create a better way of life, un-cluttered and organized long-term.
We recognize that the first step in clearing out your life is to figure out what you value. The next step is to recognize that nothing in your space is a "need." The only NEEDS are:
You may think that "wants" are "needs" but this is a lie to the subconscious process of life. By having unfulfilled needs and unfulfilled desires life becomes robotic and mundane and the "box" gets tighter and more stifling. You may cope by buying more stuff.
Organizers see what you collect. We see stuff that goes unused. We see people living in unhealthy relationships, jobs, careers, health and clutter. We see people living in their boxes. Each box contains different elements including confusion, procrastination, doubt, frustration, personal challenges, health issues, decreased motivation and lack of follow through. Organizers are there to help every step of the way to help you clear the floor and gain clarity about how to live a more organized lifestyle.
The box is symbolic of what you cannot see, or have or taste or touch. The idea that "thinking outside the box" was a great and amazing idea still perplexes me. When the box is hanging around or even in your peripheral vision, how do you see your dreams and goals clearly? Why is the box necessary to think about things? Why is the box still hanging around? Why was the box there in the first place? Is the box some kind of inspiration, like a new friend you hardly know but whose charisma is catching?
My idea of "getting rid of the box" instead of "thinking outside the box" is about internal inspiration, clarity, joy and ultimately an ideal lifestyle. So remove the boxes from your self and space and think all on your own about what you truly want in your Ideal Lifestyle.
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Marla Stone, MSW, Lifestyle Expert, Business Consultant
"Getting organized is a well planned out event if you want "perpetual organization." Achieving long-term organization starts with understanding what you truly value in life. The next step is to categorize every single object in your home. Once everything is categorized you want to go through every object, category by category and make good decisions about what you keep and what you will donate, trash or gift. But how do you make those good decisions? Using the exercise below will makes it easy. Ask yourself these four questions while pondering your belongings.
Remember the outer if a reflection of the inner, so everything around you is a representation of how you are doing in your inner self. So lots and lots of clutter and piles, and disorganization means a chaotic you.
I have so many clients struggling to get to their daily, weekly and monthly items put away in an organized manner. They have difficulty finding things they want to use only to go and buy more stuff. They want organizing systems and methods so piles and stuffed areas are remedied for good. They want to stop tripping over items they use once or twice a year and find better storage solutions for the things they use daily. All the stuff weighing on them and around them becomes an obstacle to an ideal lifestyle. You too may have challenges with your space that are weighing you down. We have solutions and ideas that will help you get organized for good!
The I-Deal-Lifestyle methods of getting and staying organized will help you extract the items you use the most, and find the appropriate home to store what you use the least. We re-design your entire space to create a system that is easy and functional and aesthetically pleasing. We organize your kitchen, living areas, bathrooms, bedrooms, cabinets, closets, and the garage so these areas are categorized. We make sure each category in each area of your space is contained. Containing categories is our secret method for you to keep up the space without our help after we are gone! By taking the items you do not use daily, weekly and monthly, and finding areas in the garage or furthest from your everyday living space you will have easy access to the things you use more often.
Get a free 30 minute phone consultation with an I-Deal-Lifestyle professional organizer by calling 949-709-7000 or emailing firstname.lastname@example.org We serve all of Orange County, Los Angeles and San Diego. We also have i-deal-lifestyle organizers throughout the 52 states. Get your house, home, business, office, garage organized now and live an easier lifestyle.
You love your partner, child, mom, your dad, grandparent, your sister, brother, cousins, best friend and neighbor. You love who you love, but you don't always love their behaviors, their lifestyle and or their space.
People with hoarding and cluttering over-accumulating and collecting behaviors or extensive collecting (EC) behaviors have difficulty connecting their behavior to unsafe conditions and lack of well being. They believe they are living just fine. When a close family member or friend attempts to help it is rarely successful. People who engage in (EC) may have some insight into their clutter challenges or no insight at all. Studies by the Institute for Challenging Disorganization indicate family members, and close friends, even loving ones, will be a trigger to increase the (EC) behaviors.
Not all people with (EC) behaviors come from homes where over-accumulation and collecting took place. After working with over 1200 clients in the past 5 1/2 years I have many hypothesis about why the behaviors perpetuate.
Here are some of my hypothesis on what causes (EC) based on interviewing over 1200 clients:
Mental health challenges such as hoarding disorder, and obsessive compulsive challenges are unusually difficult to treat. They are not illnesses like schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, major depression, post traumatic syndrome or panic disorder. There are no specific therapies or interventions currently to curb the symptoms and no medications that target the part of the brain stimulating the behaviors. I am certainly not down playing the seriousness of any other mental health challenge but (EC) behaviors are so varied, and with so many different collecting patterns and objects collected, that in some cases the symptoms are simply mind boggling.
One of the clients I helped who was a highly functioning professional started to have symptoms she could not understand. She started putting the toilet seat up and down for hours at a time. She told me that she was in her bathroom without food or water for up to 3-4 hours daily. When asked to symbolize the act of putting the toilet seat up and down she made clear it was not a fear of germs as much as an avoidance of walking through her overly-cluttered home and out the door. She had so many wonderful goals and dreams but the (EC) behaviors and the stuff blocked her from reaching them. Her shame about having clutter overwhelmed her. She did not know how to remedy the piles and piles of belongings she had collected over the years. She was a highly functioning person at work but with a growing mound of clutter in her small apartment she couldn't find her clothes or a place to have a good night's rest. She told me her denial about the collecting finely lifted when she cut herself on some broken glass while climbing into her mound one night to find a place to sleep. She realized the things she collected symbolized a "new" life. After a divorce from the previous year left her bitter and lonely she started to shop for all "new" stuff. She got rid of everything that reminded her of her ex-husband and wanted a fresh new start. The hole left inside her from the divorce was difficult to fill and so she kept shopping and shopping and shopping until her home was filled to the ceiling. Once she was able to go through and choose a reasonable amount of stuff and sell the rest she was able to resume a lifestyle she enjoyed. She started to date again and stopped having compulsive behaviors, recognizing they did not help her at all.
It can be a very mysterious set of circumstances which trigger over-accumulating and collecting behaviors and the solutions are educational and spiritually based.
Over-accumulation and collecting behaviors are fear based, guilt based and sentimental based. People can start collecting from their mail, grocery items, free newspaper stands, dumpsters or by shopping. Some people collect from relatives that are alive and that have passed. Every case is a unique eye opener.
I helped a man who saved all his egg and milk cartons. There were 1000's of egg and milk cartons in his home. He created a maze of egg and milk cartons. When asked to symbolize the cartons he explained that they could be "useful" and that he felt "shame" in throwing them away. He exclaimed that they were "perfectly created objects." The cartons symbolized "prospects" and "inventions" that he could develop from them. When asked "what are some of your ideas for the cartons?" he claimed he was "working on it." It may not make sense to you or I why he was so bent on creating something out of the cartons, but the important thing was to help him see how they were hurting him. By not focusing on "getting rid" of the cartons and focusing on what he could do with them he found a simple solution. He came to the conclusion that by bringing them to a recycling center he would contribute to society and make some money. After that he continued to donate egg and milk cartons regularly. He also figured out what he truly valued in life, which was to be productive and helpful to others. He found a job at a local health food store and used his knowledge about natural remedies to help people find their way to wellness.
Freud explained over-accumulation with a theory called “object relations,” a personalized view of the object and attachment to the objects based on a person’s relationship to the object. Jung’s ideas are that the objects are symbols of self, life and perceptions. Helping people focus on the symbolic meaning of their collections is extremely helpful in their parting with them. The work involved in helping people stop (EC) behaviors is unique in every situation, but there are key methods, exercises and techniques I have created that help in the long-term.
The behaviors are generally annoying, scary, tedious, sad and exhausting for family members who attempt to intervene. You are not alone. Most people with (EC) behaviors feel isolated, ashamed, angry, frustrated, lost and ineffective about their space and their motivation to do anything about the mess around themselves. The behaviors are not a way to sabotage you, or an act of being passive aggressive. The (EC) behaviors stem from many different reasons that they cannot always control.
Over-accumulation and collecting behaviors have been around since time began. In studying "cave" people behaviors there were some that collected more than others. Mental health practitioners, educators and researchers are now becoming more and more interested in the subject to find cures, interventions and therapies specific to the odd behaviors.
Hoarding disorder is not a term I am fond of. Hoarding is a term for animals. I prefer the term extensive collecting to talk about the subject. It is an International epidemic and there is a help out there for you and your loved one. In each community there are task forces going out to help people that are trapped by their belongings. These forces are not there on a day and night basis or even in an emergency, but with planning and contact they will intervene with your loved one.
Don't take a family member's hoarding and cluttering lightly. It is a very serious challenge and can be life threatening. There is always a way to see the light and create a clear path without fighting and harm. Professional Organizers with an expertise in mental health have a lot of techniques and insight to work with situations involving large amounts of clutter.
When someone is living in a pile of trash and stuff so high that they cannot safely move around without falling, or when a fire department refuses to enter a space with too much stuff it is time to intervene. Don't wait until a tragedy occurs.
Most of the time the task force in your area will consist of a fireman, adult protective worker, city worker, social worker, a professional organizer and volunteers. These groups of people do make house calls. They help people break down the barricades that hold them back from enjoying their ideal lifestyle. I call the barricade of stuff "a self made prison system with a forever pass to go free."
Marla Stone is a mental health consultant and speaker specializing in extensive collecting challenges. You can reach her by email at email@example.com or call now for a free 30 minute phone consultation at 949-709-7000.
Let's face it, renovating a home can be overwhelming and sometimes you may think you're going mad. Working with designers, contractors, along with every buddy having an opinion, at the end of the day you may just want to cry. So let's make it easy for you to figure out what goes in your home.
1. Go with the architecture of the home. When you have a french country home you want tile, paint and furniture that goes with that style. When you purchase a modern home you're not thinking contemporary furniture, you're wanting modern. Contemporary belongs with contemporary. When you have a colonial home you are not going with french provincial, but rather colonial pieces, with a flair of provincial. It first makes sense to buy a home with architecture that you love so the inside matches your taste.
2. Once you figure out the genre of the home, paint and flooring are the first things to start to figure out. Start with the base of the home and work up to lighting, paint, furniture, decor and artwork. It's elementary my darling. Flooring options are so many that your head will spin. Let's narrow it down: Wood (real wood, engineered wood, tile that looks like wood and laminate that looks like wood.) Tile (porcelain, ceramic, real stone.) Carpet (wool or synthetic.) Materials (concrete, cork, vinyl.) What you choose is ultimately up to you. It's all in how it looks and feels to you. So go to different flooring shops big and small and touch the flooring and step on it and take pictures of it and ponder it. Don't be hasty since it will be expensive. There are many stores such as Floor and Decor, Home Depot, Lowes, Lumber and tile outlets, mom and pop shops, exclusive shops, downtown shops, and shops on-line. Get samples to see how it goes in your space before making decisions about what to buy. Bring home the samples and see if it is really what you want and if the house likes it too.
3. Now paint. Go to your favorite paint store, Dunn Edwards, Vista, Sherwin Williams, Home Depot, Lowes, independent, local, expert retailer stores, or go on-line and start looking at colors. Do you want blues, oranges, yellows, browns, black, beiges, white, green, reds, or fifty shades of grey? Figure out what soothes and moves you. Once you narrow down the category of colors you like and for which rooms you like them in, buy samples of paint. Start with a few and then just keep going until you have an ah hah moment. It's not a cheap or easy process, but painting the samples on your walls will let you know what you can and cannot live with. If you don't want to mucky up the walls use a piece of white paper or cardboard taped onto the wall. Don't pick too many colors and make the house all choppy with different paint. Don't go too wild and make your eyes bug out every time you walk into the kitchen. Subtle colors for the bedrooms help you sleep better and bolder colors in small bathrooms or laundry rooms is my rule. Choose a theme of colors that foster a flow through your home.
4. Finding contractors. Referral, referral, referral. Don't go too cheap or too high. Look at reviews on-line. Talk to your neighbors to see who worked for them. Do your research. Get recent references. I made the mistake of getting 3 past references for a flooring guy only to realize they were from years ago and not current. Blunder after blunder the guy finally told me he had lost his wife and started doing drugs. He was a nice enough guy but he had become a mess, therefore he created chaos in my home.
5. Be on-site at all times or have someone who knows design, like a designer or a family member who will keep close watch on the work. Workman don't want someone breathing down their neck, but guess what either does your kid, but that doesn't mean you are not watching and checking on him or her regularly. Contractors or whoever you hire often leave incompetent workers on their own. So poke your nose into your masterpiece anytime you want to. Speak up if you see something that bothers you or you know is cockamamie.
6. Furniture is all about matching the architecture. You can be somewhat eclectic but you want a flow to the structure and all that is in it. So figure out what the house would have in it if a top designer were to do the design. Let the architecture and setting of your home dictate the style. Throwing in asian pieces, or modern or antique pieces here and there in any architecture is fine but the base furniture style wants to have a theme. Find furnishings, paintings and decor on Craigslist, Facebook furniture groups and consignment stores to save some money. I have found expensive, quality pieces by shopping "green." As long as what you buy is not trendy, it is real wood and high quality you will be happier than buying cheap "good looking" pieces. When you want new items hire an interior designer to help you. Designers get great deep discounts at all the large stores and from manufacturers. Find a designer who will pass the savings onto you.
Marla Stone is a design and decor expert founded in the art of Feng Shui. Her company Decor and more for Less is at www.orangecountydecorators.com She works in the United States, Europe and Canada helping people get real with what they want and then she finds the deal. Call 949-709-7000 for a free 15 minute phone consultation with a decor specialist.
Do you find yourself looking frantically for gadgets, spices, and anything you want to use while cooking? That's a sign it's time for a kitchen clean up! I do a full organization of my kitchen every 6-8 months. It is like HEAVEN when your kitchen is organized. There is no better feeling then preparing a meal and knowing where everything is. I promise organizing your kitchen is not that hard and saves you hours of time and stress normally dedicated to looking for stuff. In five easy steps, your kitchen will be looking fantastic!
If a home for sale is unfurnished, its beauty and value are understated to those viewing it. Even if a home buyer's furniture pieces are completely different sizes or styles than those in the home they are viewing, having an easy frame of reference is quite useful to them. Furthermore, buyers can be enticed to buy a home they would be otherwise averted to if the decor brings serenity, joy and interest.
The Chinese art of Feng Shui lays forth . By dividing areas in your home into devoted categories (Love and Relationships, Fame and Recognition, Prosperity, Children and Creativity, Health, Family, Helping People and Travel, Skills and Knowledge), energy will flow through it. In fact, the tranquility is instantly recognizable. When the Bagua maps are utilized, to bring harmony to its occupants, an understanding of how your home influences your lifestyle is recognized.
I-Deal-Lifestyle professional organizers take advantage of these principles to get your house ready to sell. Whether your home is completely empty or a cluttered mess, we will use Feng Shui to turn every room into a selling feature. We will find inexpensive, lightly-used pieces to liven up your living spaces. Or, we can incorporate the neglected decor items already in your home to entice potential buyers. Marla Stone explains that "how you place or re-purpose items clients already own, can change the whole dynamic and look of the property".
Is it important to stage your home prior to putting it on the market? "Yes, and the increase in value is recognized by everyone immediately".
Get a whole home assessment and a whole lot of ideas for increasing the value of your home for sale, or just for you to enjoy and stay!
For professional decorating in Orange County, Los Angeles, or San Diego, contact Marla Stone - (949) 709-7000
"I need to go to the bank." "I need your help." "I need a cup of coffee". Modern language is filled with "I need" statements. In fact, most individuals use this phrase in each spoken sentance. But are we describing things we must do? Do our lives unconditionally depend on that cup of java, or did we just want it to stave off the mid-afternoon slump?
What a person actually needs is easily listed on your fingers. Humans need air, food, water, shelter, sleep, elimination, and sunlight. The seven human necessities are the only things absolutely essential to human survival. When people say they "need" something separate from this list they are improperly expressing themselves. Some may dismiss this notion, arguing the phrase has adapted to mean something else - a figure of speech that outgrew its original definition. However, its use could lead to unnoticed, but impactful consequences.
People who regularly tell themselves they "need" inessential things are confusing their subconscious selves. Deep down everybody knows what they truly need. It is not that new rug, new phone, and new car. One may "want" these things very much, but when they're expressed as a need, the subconscious mind will derail and prevent the desire from ever reaching fruition. Regularly declaring you need to do something will cause you to not do it at all!
Luckily, a simple solution for this language exists. Instead of proclaiming what you need, decide what you want and what you will do to get it. Replacing the phrase "I need" with "I will" will help you follow through with your decisions and do what you truly want to.
This approach to needy language is a core principle of I-Deal-Lifestyle's methods of organization. I-Deal-Lifestyle is a professional organizing company in Orange County, California. They help people all over find out If something is useful, has a purpose, is sentimental, or if it simply loved. Marla Stone the owner explains "The I-Deal-Lifestyle criteria makes it easy to figure out what to keep in your space." She wants to you to remember "You don't need any of your possessions," but by employing the helpful criteria and decisive language techniques you can have your space organized in no time and forever.
For professional organization services in Orange County, Los Angeles, and San Diego, contact Marla Stone for a free 30 minute phone consultation at 949-709-7000
While capitalism has brought abundance and material security to modern living it can cause you to to over-collect. In fact, many Americans find their precious possessions are filling their homes, leaving them disorganized and with overly-cluttered spaces. They are not necessarily "clinical" cases but they have too many items for them to keep track of or care for. This clutter inevitably causes people to feel unnecessarily stressed and overwhelmed.
The answer to this common predicament is not sending all your stuff straight to the dump. By classifying and properly organizing your possessions, you can have an organized and beautiful home or office that exhibits collections instead of just storing them. Having vast collections is respectable as long as they are sufficiently organized. The show "hoarders" is extreme cases, but you may have what is considered a "normal" amount of stuff strewn all over the place.
The task of categorizing, containing and finding homes for all your belongings can be daunting especially if you're at it alone. I-Deal-Lifestyle professional organizers are located in South Orange County, California. They have a proprietary way of helping you get organized long-term. It is one thing to get organized but they will also do some lifestyle coaching exercises with you to help you remain organized forever. They will help you declutter thoroughly and entirely. No matter how much clutter you have they help you implement an organizational system specifically tailored to your space and possessions.
In addition Marla Stone, the owner's expertise in the Chinese art of Feng Shui will revitalize your living spaces and bring you peace of mind. For it is not your possessions that matter, it is the way in which they supplement your life.
Getting the knack to get organized? Spring is here and it is the natural time to clear and clean so you will have a fun and easy summer.
For professional organization services in Orange County, Los Angeles, and San Diego, contact Marla Stone - 949-709-7000
Hoarding challenges better stated as over-collecting, over-accumulation and churning behaviors create unsafe, unlivable, and often deadly environments for people to live in. It is in the extreme cases that Professional Organizer, that use the I-Deal-Lifestyle Methods, are the best possible avenue for having a safe and sound environment occur.
The beginning I-Deal-Lifestyle methods, for severe, chronic or mild cases are the same. The first I-Deal-Lifestyle methods involve, clearing the entire contents out of the existing space, then organizing all belongings into categories. Every single object in the home ends up with like objects. Yet in severe cases where there is significant attachment to objects, and strife, and where extreme anxiety would occur, there is NO editing involved.
Editing or going through items, with people who have very little insight and who have no intention of parting with items is NOT a good idea, and will cause harm.
Marla Stone creator of the I-Deal-Method of organizing, explains "the next step for people with high attachment is to keep their categorized items in clear plastic bins by category, out of walk ways, off the furniture, preferably on shelving that can go anywhere a shelf can go". The idea behind that is "when people can see their belongings, clearly, it cuts way back on the churning behaviors, giving that person a break from wondering where everything is, and they are less likely to collect more. The plus is they can keep every little scrap they own, yet it is out of their pathways, they can sit on their couch, entertain and sleep in their beds. It is a safer and more 'normal' lifestyle. Marla realized "it is not our place to tell people what they can and can't keep in their space".
The process of categorizing the entire contents of a space is labor intensive and involves a team of organizers, but when the owners see the beauty of categorizing all their belongings, they "get it". It is not rocket science to get someone organized when there is a great plan, and some muscle. Having people stay organized long-term is where it gets tricky. Marla has linked staying organized with changing your language.
Marla also discovered that just clearing the space, organizing the home, having it cleaned and then having items containerized by category is "as far as some folks can go". She explains, "the trend now is to live with extreme organization and minimal stuff that brings you "joy", but the majority of people, in the world, still will not part with their stuff even if it is not loved, sentimental, purposeful and or useful". So to accommodate her clients she goes with what makes them comfortable, yet safe and protected.
Marla Stone, owner of I-Deal-Lifestyle, has developed a method involving changing your language, understanding a criteria for what stays near and far in our space, and an understanding of what a person will or won't do after the organizers have completed the project. Marla explains "the first step is changing your language to eliminate the word need in conjunction with objects, knowing whether the objects are used, purposeful, sentimental and or loved, and then assessing whether the person has the desire, will or determination to keep up the organized space". She calls her method the
I-Deal-Lifestyle tm Method. This method has helped 1000's of people get and remain organized long-term.
Marla Stone earned her BA in Psychology and a Master's in Social Work and is the founder of I-Deal-Lifestyle, a Self and Space Organization Service.
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