Learning Feng Shui is easy when you have a teacher that makes it easy. Learning Feng Shui in depth can take years, just like learning a language. But the basics of understanding the Bagua (floor plan map) of your home and or office is quite easy. Basic Feng Shui will teach you how to set up any home, business or office space properly. Understanding the basics will teach you how to place furniture, which direction furniture pieces like desk, bed and couch should face, and what objects belong where and what objects can be eliminated and or added. Basic Feng Shui will help you understand each area of a home and what it represents. Recognizing each space, room, home, business, office is divided into 9 equal parts helps you understand what activities would be best accomplished in what part of each space.
You will understand that the 9 areas of any space are Love and Relationships, Fame and Recognition, Prosperity, Children and Creativity, Health, Family, Helping People and Travel, Career and Skills and Knowledge, and how each area affects you, your life and family. You will understand how to navigate the Bagua Map and find out how to locate the above areas in any space you go into. You will be able to Feng Shui your own space easily and quickly. Friends, family and clients will marvel at your skill level, your intuitive process and how you will help them re-purpose furniture and set up the furniture so there is a more aesthetic and creative design.
Asking yourself, "does this stuff really work?" Well, it is an ancient Science and Art originally named in China over 4000 years ago. The principles of Feng Shui are used in many cultures, by famous people, and business owners all over the world. Going into peoples homes for years I realized some people, who have never even heard of Feng Shui do it naturally, while other lack any kind of energy and flow and live in chaos and discomfort. When I give Feng Shui tips, ideas and suggestions to the latter clients, often they remark "that's how I used to have the space set up". I find that with grief and loss, divorce, life changing events many times people undo their good energy and flow and create a space that reflects their sorrowful inner self. Helping people get back an ideal living space is the main goal of Feng Shui Specialists. Helping people increase wellness in their health, relationships, family, children, loved ones, creativity, wealth, at work and school is the aim and point of Feng Shui.
Feng Shui is a great way to purge items that do not belong in your space. Pictures of sad and lonely people, fake plants and flowers, items that hold negative memories, or objects that just don't reflect your being or nature tend to have a dampening affect on the energy of the space and the occupants. Many of my clients tend to keep items around that are never used, don't serve a purpose, not sentimental and that they just don't love, but they have difficulty parting with them. Feng Shui makes editing fun and easy. You will learn how to de-clutter with Feng Shui principles.
Getting better energy and flow to all areas of your home, business, office is a great idea, and you will learn how to do it yourself. A Feng Shui teacher will come into your home, office or business and teach you on-site all the tricks of the trade and get your space Feng Shui'd on the spot. The Feng Shui teaching packages are 4 hours for $299.00 6 hours for $425.00 and 8 hours for $550.00.
You will know every aspect of Feng Shui that you can possibly absorb in your session. You will be able to perform Feng Shui for a deserving family member, and or friends. You will be able to practice Feng Shui independently by the time your session(s) end. Wouldn't this be a fun gift for you and or someone you love. You will also get an I-Deal-Lifestyle Feng Shui Specialist Certificate so you can go into a Feng Shui business, or just help family and friends with confidence. On-going consultations with a Feng Shui Specialist over Skype, telephone or email is always available by appointment.
Working with a Feng Shui Master, Feng Shui Teacher, and a Feng Shui Specialist is the best way to learn how to do Feng Shui. Find out more about getting a free 30 minute consultation to become a Certified I-Deal-Lifestyle Feng Shui Specialist now at 949-709-7000 or email email@example.com.
Getting organized can be tedious and overwhelming when you are alone and without support of your partner, family and or roommates, who don't want to be your cohort in the organizing adventure. Organizing a shared space with an unwilling partner can block the road to YOUR ORGANIZED world.
Most commonly I hear that a spouse, partner, family member or roommate wants to get organized but the other half is just fine in their clutter comfort. This tends to be difficult and worrisome for the person who wants freedom and escape from clutter and disorganization.
Why does clutter come between people? Well some people realize that the outer is a reflection of the inner and want to have an organized system to help them stay focused and productive. Other people push clutter in your face and are just plain old “self-centered”, not aware of their surroundings and or other's feelings. The person creating the disorganization and mess cannot see the demise of their counterpart. Or could it be they thrive on clutter and actually feel comforted?
Are people REALLY comfortable with clutter? Not usually, but on some level if a person grew up in a cluttered environment they may not think twice about living the same way as was their home of origin. Other people who tolerate clutter mayhem well, may suffer from mental health challenges such as depression, anxiety, ADHD, ADD and or Obsessive Compulsive challenges. The divide, amongst people who share space, in housekeeping styles, is what a lot of partnerships fight about. Most people who cohabitate or who share space fight about money, housekeeping, moral issues, how to raise children/pets, and sex (if that is in the equation). Housekeeping, let's face it is tedious, but when clutter has run rampant it may become dangerous, harmful to health and downright unbearable for a person who likes order and neatness. One person may feel like they are king, on their "junk" pile, while the other a drowning person.
So what to do when two or more people in a space are at odds with each other? Well what most civilized groups tend to do is compromise. But how do you compromise on clutter and chaos? The same way emotionally intelligent people solve conflict, you discuss it, find out what common ground there is (no pun intended), and you make a plan that suits both of you. The best way to discuss a difficult situation is to use assertive language.
Assertive language style goes like this.
YOU: I feel______________(adjective feeling words) i.e. hurt, overwhelmed, confused, disappointed, let down, unheard, stepped on etc.... when________________(describe situation) i.e. there are piles of stuff in corners, the garage is overtaken by your unfinished projects, when I can't see the countertop, when dishes are left in the sink, when the house if not kept up etc.... and then the finale......_______________________(validation, so they hear the feelings) i.e. and I love you so much, and you are such a great partner, and so creative and so loveable and I appreciate this and that about you, you’re a fun roommate etc....
The reason for the switch from the "I feel" statement and the "situation" statement to the sweet "validation" statement is that ideally the other person will hear your feelings and respond accordingly. There are no guarantees, if you become highly assertive, the other person will respond appropriately. That doesn’t mean that you lower your communication style, becoming aggressive, passive aggressive or passive, it just means you will probably have to learn how to have rules about your world and boundaries to protect it.
When you discuss situations that bring on contention between you and others, in an assertive manner, you will feel more confident and justified in your approach, and also create expectations for an assertive response. When the other person comes back at you with aggression, passive aggressive stances, and or ignores you and you feel defeated keep going with the above assertive language. If the other person continues to use a non-assertive method of communication even though you have shared deep and dark feelings, and have validated them, it is time to realize they do not care about your feelings and or working on a better partnership. Your next step may be to seek counseling, individual and or family, get coaching with an experienced life coach or take a break from the situation through separation until the other person will hear you, and make the necessary changes for the partnership to resume comfortably for both of you.
Remember when you share space….the meaning of share is important!
Marla is known as the organizing clutter therapist®. Marla earned her BA in Psychology and a Master's in Social Work and is the founder of I-Deal-Lifestyle, a Self and Space Organization Service.