Professional Organizer Marla Stone talks about what people like to organize, the consequences of not being organized and tips on how to get organized.
People want to be organized, that is a given. Getting organized, purging, editing, paring down, de-cluttering, and clutter free articles dominate the cover of every magazine. Organizing is America's new favorite subject. Actually getting organized is a whole different matter.
When I first became a Napo Organizer in 2010, I had already been organizing people's lives and their worlds for 18 years as a Social Worker/Therapist. I love telling people what to do, how to do it and why they have challenges following through and getting organized. I really am the friendly visitor, but also can be firm about the consequences of not being organized. I want people to learn how to be organized from the outside in and this inside out, long-term.
People want to organize just about everything including themselves, their spouses, kids, parents, family members and friends. So far my company www.i-deal-lifestyle.com have organized bedrooms, clothes, knick knacks, supplies, bathrooms, kitchen, living area, garden, baby's room, sheds, storage, garage, limited space, kids, small children, car, drawers, pantries, cabinets, visitors, decorating, de-cluttering and categorizing all like items with like items, while also teaching them how to stay organized. Organizing by yourself, family, and even friends, will take three times as long as having a professional around to guide an organized process of decluttering. The tricks of the professional organizing trade will be evident from your own idea of what is considered organized. When your home is a storage nightmare and you have not one more inch of space, organizers will see space where you never imagined it. Also professionals will teach you how to maintain the home long term. You will see your home in a whole different light through the organizers eyes. We welcome you to call 949-709-7000 for a free 30 minute phone consultation with an organizing expert. The joy of organizing with a professional organizing crew is what would take you two months to organize will take a team 2-3 days to organize you.
We help people manage varied interests and stuff so they can enjoy their interest. We help them with how to combine two people's stuff in one place, behavioral techniques to remain organized, interior design ideas, cute and efficient ways to set up a desk, how to deal with mail, financial management, filing, business, paperwork, bills, having too much stuff, no storage, creative storage, mind clutter, and what to keep, throw away or donate.
The consequences we discovered of not being organized cause confusion, stress, loss of time, loss of items, feeling overwhelmed, chaos, cleaning too long when things pile up, losing things, taking to much time too find things, missing items, can't find anything, waste of money, buying storage helpers but not using them, buying organization tools and not using them, buying too much stuff on-line, on sale, buying the same things over and over since they don't remember they have them, forgetfulness, crazed feelings, tired, fatigue, disappointment, misplaced documents, not getting things done on time, missing appointments, missing celebrations, bills not getting paid on time, mortgage or rent not getting paid on time, poor credit, depression, anxiety, funk, worry and embarrassment.
So Getting Organized is a good idea and there is a method to the madness. Here are some tips to make organizing easier by understanding what gets in our way.
How We Think
What is on your mind? Is it on taking the kids to school, going to work, building an empire, laundry, cleaning, organizing, a recent new relationship, having no relationship, an argument, yesterday's lovemaking, a family member who is ill, the past, the future? Where ever your mind is you will be too. If you are thinking about going sailing this weekend and end up on groupon for two hours looking for a deal, instead of picking up after your self, partner or the kids that is what you are most interested in doing. Let's face it most people don't get up every morning and say "Oh Goody, I am going to clean out the pantry and refrigerator today". Let's face it most would rather be on www.facebook.com. lol, I bet it was difficult not to click on the link. Hah. Your mind may be on certain challenges you are facing, whether physical, emotional and or mental. Having difficult situations will take our focus off of keeping our self and space organized. I recently had two clients who lost their father. I told them to call me when they were finished with the grieving process. When you are grieving it is no time to start an organizing project!
What We Say
I hear more people say "i need" today than any other two words in our language. "I need to go shopping, I need to pick up the kids, I need to buy some shoes, I need to talk to my mother, I need to do my hair, I need to exercise, I need new clothes". I need, I need, I need!!! We are needling ourselves to death. Bottom line the only things we need are to breathe, eat, sleep, drink, have shelter, sun, and go to the bathroom, period. The other words in place of "I need" are "I have to". Means the same thing. "I have to do this and I have to do that." So since you don't need to do anything or have to do anything except breathe, eat, sleep, drink and have shelter, sun, and go to the bathroom. You either want to do something, you don't want to do something or you're not sure about doing something. It is that simple. Start saying I want to or I don't want to or I'm undecided. Your life will get better and you will feel better. If you are undecided next look for my decision making exercise on tomorrow's blog.
What We Value
What do you value? Most people are stumped when I ask them this question, or they cock their head and look at me as if I am asking them a question involving quantum physics. Funny enough an old aquaintance of mine Dick Feynman ( an expert at quantum physics and the scientist who worked on building the atom bomb and who solved the shuttle problem) once asked me "Marla, what is love?" I thought quick and hard and said "It is a feeling of passion, closeness that can sometimes feels so overwhelming it hurts, and a bond that never dies once it was there, no matter what". He loved that answer.
Anyway getting back to what we value. Do you value family, friends, money, power, fame, fortune, relationships, art, travel, independence, autonomy, rest, sleep, solace, children, your looks, health, leisure time or religion, spirituality, creativity or yoga? What do you value?? Until you figure out the top ten things you value, you will not be motivated to organize and there will be no really good reason to be organized. For instance if you value a new relationship, to get married and have kids, but everytime you have a date, you cannot invite them over to your messy place, do you really want to go forward in having a relationship, or do you value independence more. Figure it out and you will start to enjoy your top values more often. Marla Stone is owner of www.i-deal-lifestyle.com A Self and Space Organization Company. Call Marla, Professional Organizer, Lifestyle Coach, Business Coach, Décor and Feng Shui Specialist for a free 30 minute Lifestyle Consultation. 949-709-7000
Marla also owns www.southocwellness.com, a Health Wellness Management Company.
Marla earned her BA in Psychology and a Master's in Social Work and is the founder of I-Deal-Lifestyle, a Self and Space Organization Service.