Mood Matters by Marla Stone

  Are you moody? Do you have chronic shifts in mood that disrupt you for hours, days or sometimes even weeks. Do you swing from a dark mood, irritable mood, angry mood, blah mood, to a  hyper mood, or on top of the moon mood?  Most people do have occasional mood shifts, but will adjust themselves back to a balanced state fairly quickly.  Some people have what  I call "irritable mood syndrome". You never know if the moody guy or gal will be easy peasy or lumpy, grumpy.  When you are around a person with  a mood issue you don't know if you will have the time of your life or get slammed.  It will be like walking on eggshells, and their behavior can throw you off your mark instantly. If you are the person with a moody issue there will be a constant fight within to stay focused, organized and creative. Getting rid of this pattern of groovy (stuck in a groove) moody nonsense will take some thought and time, but you can do it.

So what causes a person to be chronically irritable and moody?  I always look at things bio/
psycho/socially. There could be a genetic reason for mood mischief, it  psychological and or an environmental trigger.  If it is biological in nature it could be genetics, suffering from alcohol or drug addiction, a medical/dental problem, lack of exercise or diet. Someone told me that when people's arteries start to harden they become impossible to deal with emotionally. The psychological push would indicate there is something that  happened to the person, (a trauma, abuse, loss, rejection, low self esteem, poor self image, childhood issues) that caused an emotional/mental impact. The environmental issue will be where the person lives and or works ( too crowded, too polluted, with family they don't get along with, near chemicals, bad water, gloomy weather, near ground zero), or it could be something that is happening in society (war, politics, famine, revolution).

If people often ask you "What's wrong?", "Are you okay?", repeat "Why are your upset?", seem hesitant to approach you, eventually stop calling, keep their distance, stop inviting you to social events, create a distance between you and them, get upset with your behavior, you may suffer from an "irritable mood syndrome" (my definition), or you may actually meet criteria for a real
Psychiatric diagnosis and or Medical condition. The first step would be to rule out any Psychiatric and or Medical reasons with a Psychiatrist and or a Medical Specialist. If you find  you do not meet criteria for a serious health challenge, then you may want to take an inventory of the bio/psycho/social factors. Did you have aggressive parents, siblings or relationships that scarred you? Did you have a trauma?  Were you exposed to something environmentally that has disturbed your balance and sense of stability and calm? If you have difficulty identifying where the anger, disappointment, mood volatility is coming from, then seek counseling with a licensed health provider, and or get some coaching to sort through your thoughts. I talked to a young woman one day at a party, and she described her father as angry, annoying, narcissistic and controlling. She said "I just wish people could get through their shit". Pardon my language, but that is what she said. And I think it is true, that it is important to work through your issues. I often hear people say "get over it", but if you get over something it is still there beneath you. WORK THROUGH YOUR STUFF. It is your responsibility to wade through bothersome memories, hurts, wounds, disappointments, aggravation, loss, self pity, low self esteem, missed opportunities, accidents, health issues etc... It is up to you to be a kind, nice and balanced person. 

If you have attempted to work through issues with a professional and you found it unsuccessful find someone else to work with that you can relate to.  Keep going until you're balanced and know the issues are resolved.  Sometimes group therapy is the best way to get a really good picture of your self.

You may ask what is a kind, nice and balanced  person?  Well it is someone who does not bark, put down, degrade, act  selfish, constantly challenge, berate, aggravate, scape goat, cheat, take advantage of, overly demand, isolate, act out, yell, scream, hit another person and or animal.  A kind, nice and balanced person is a person who acts in a manner that is gentle, kind, appreciative, consistent, respectful, considerate, intuitive, philanthropic, giving, thoughtful, constructive, considers the good  for all, and has great manners.

Let me know your thoughts on what a kind, nice and balanced person is to you?

Needless to say, mood upheavals will impact your ability to stay organized, feel calm and collected and most importantly it can affect your health and relationships with
others.

Important NOTE: The highest rate of psychiatric hospitalizations
is in October and the highest rate of suicide is in May. Keep an extra eye on
family, friends, and colleagues around those times. Look up signs of suicide on
http://www.webmd.com/depression/guide/depression-recognizing-signs-of-suicide

Marla Stone Lifestyle Coach and Professional Organizer
She owns www.southocwellness and www.i-deal-lifestyle in South Orange County California

Marla provides:
Professional Organizing Services, Personal Home Organizers, Home Organizer Services, Home Organization Services, Professional Organizers, Home Organization, Home Organizing services and is a member of NAPO. She also offers coaching and mentoring to increase wellness.
Call 949-709-7000 for a free 30 minute consultation.  www.i-deal-lifestyle.com

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Balance is the key to Success