You have always done everything yourself. Moving, packing, unpacking, decorating, organizing your kitchen, the kids rooms, the garage, were all tasks that you pushed yourself to accomplish, never even thinking of asking for help. We are so distant from relatives today, and don't want to inconvenience friends, so we end up doing so much on our own. Marla the owner of I-Deal-Lifestyle was totally guilty of this push, push, push behavior. She prided myself on being the dynamo woman who could do it all. Looking back if Marla had known she could call on someone to help her get organized and situated she would have been dialing away.
Prior to becoming a Professional Organizer Marla really had not been aware of the "profession". She saw a few shows about hoarding, and heard the term "Professional Organizer", but never thought of it in terms of a personal service that you could call upon. She explains "I thought the term Professional Organizer linked only to the serious hoarding situations." It wasn't until she retired as a Social Worker/Therapist and was soul searching to a new career, feeling completely turned upside down, and disorganized that Stone started searching out books on how to get organized. "I bought book after book, signed up for newsletters from Professional Organizers, and started plowing through the material." One day a message from a Professional Organizer out of England popped up on her email. All of a sudden it hit her, "I'm supposed to be a Professional Organizer."
Marla exclaims "For heaven's sake I had been a very organized Clinician, keeping two offices alive for ten years, billing insurance companies, keeping track of clients and their lives, and helping others get themselves organized." It was a perfect fit for her, and explains "it felt like doing old fashioned "Social Work.""
The old fashioned Social Worker, before licensing and all the rules and ethical
boundaries, was a man or woman, who visited families in search of care, usually
with a fruit basket. They were called "friendly visitors". They were hired by
the family to come in and help other men and women get back on their feet. The
"friendly visitor" would go into the home and help in any way possible to put
things back in order. They would lift the person out of bed, help them get
dinner ready or wash some clothes just to start the ball rolling again. It was
the kindness, caring and nurturing ways of these visitors that brought life back
into the family member who had been down and out.
Organizers help empty nesters to single mothers get their lives organized. They help business owners and employees to increase productivity, with time management and where to put the cubicles or desks. They help with organizing kid's schedules, toys, papers, garages, pantry's, laundry rooms. The I-Deal-Lifestyle organizers take it to a whole new level which is called UBER organizing where everything that can be organized gets organized "to the bone."
Professional organizing is the best luxury gift you can give yourself. The team at I-Deal-Lifestyle can organize your space in half the time of industry standards so you can literally organize every nook and cranny of your home and office in one - three days.
The owner Marla Stone says it is like an "abracadabra moment." "To see the before and after pics of each job is like we have performed magic," Stone explains.
Professional Organizers are the friendly visitors of today. We are there so you don’t have to push yourself to pack, unpack, move, clean out your garage, organize your kitchen, closets, decorate, do errands and shop if that is just not in the cards for you. We are there to teach you how to organize, coach you and fix up your house, simple. So stop pushing and call a local professional organizer and GET ORGANIZED NOW!
Call Marla Stone at 949-709-7000 for a free 30 minute phone consultation.
We also do Feng Shui and are Décor Specialists!!
Are you moody? Do you have chronic shifts in mood that disrupt you for hours, days or sometimes even weeks. Do you swing from a dark mood, irritable mood, angry mood, blah mood, to a hyper mood, or on top of the moon mood? Most people do have occasional mood shifts, but will adjust themselves back to a balanced state fairly quickly. Some people have what I call "irritable mood syndrome". You never know if the moody guy or gal will be easy peasy or lumpy, grumpy. When you are around a person with a mood issue you don't know if you will have the time of your life or get slammed. It will be like walking on eggshells, and their behavior can throw you off your mark instantly. If you are the person with a moody issue there will be a constant fight within to stay focused, organized and creative. Getting rid of this pattern of groovy (stuck in a groove) moody nonsense will take some thought and time, but you can do it.
So what causes a person to be chronically irritable and moody? I always look at things bio/
psycho/socially. There could be a genetic reason for mood mischief, it psychological and or an environmental trigger. If it is biological in nature it could be genetics, suffering from alcohol or drug addiction, a medical/dental problem, lack of exercise or diet. Someone told me that when people's arteries start to harden they become impossible to deal with emotionally. The psychological push would indicate there is something that happened to the person, (a trauma, abuse, loss, rejection, low self esteem, poor self image, childhood issues) that caused an emotional/mental impact. The environmental issue will be where the person lives and or works ( too crowded, too polluted, with family they don't get along with, near chemicals, bad water, gloomy weather, near ground zero), or it could be something that is happening in society (war, politics, famine, revolution).
If people often ask you "What's wrong?", "Are you okay?", repeat "Why are your upset?", seem hesitant to approach you, eventually stop calling, keep their distance, stop inviting you to social events, create a distance between you and them, get upset with your behavior, you may suffer from an "irritable mood syndrome" (my definition), or you may actually meet criteria for a real
Psychiatric diagnosis and or Medical condition. The first step would be to rule out any Psychiatric and or Medical reasons with a Psychiatrist and or a Medical Specialist. If you find you do not meet criteria for a serious health challenge, then you may want to take an inventory of the bio/psycho/social factors. Did you have aggressive parents, siblings or relationships that scarred you? Did you have a trauma? Were you exposed to something environmentally that has disturbed your balance and sense of stability and calm? If you have difficulty identifying where the anger, disappointment, mood volatility is coming from, then seek counseling with a licensed health provider, and or get some coaching to sort through your thoughts. I talked to a young woman one day at a party, and she described her father as angry, annoying, narcissistic and controlling. She said "I just wish people could get through their shit". Pardon my language, but that is what she said. And I think it is true, that it is important to work through your issues. I often hear people say "get over it", but if you get over something it is still there beneath you. WORK THROUGH YOUR STUFF. It is your responsibility to wade through bothersome memories, hurts, wounds, disappointments, aggravation, loss, self pity, low self esteem, missed opportunities, accidents, health issues etc... It is up to you to be a kind, nice and balanced person.
If you have attempted to work through issues with a professional and you found it unsuccessful find someone else to work with that you can relate to. Keep going until you're balanced and know the issues are resolved. Sometimes group therapy is the best way to get a really good picture of your self.
You may ask what is a kind, nice and balanced person? Well it is someone who does not bark, put down, degrade, act selfish, constantly challenge, berate, aggravate, scape goat, cheat, take advantage of, overly demand, isolate, act out, yell, scream, hit another person and or animal. A kind, nice and balanced person is a person who acts in a manner that is gentle, kind, appreciative, consistent, respectful, considerate, intuitive, philanthropic, giving, thoughtful, constructive, considers the good for all, and has great manners.
Let me know your thoughts on what a kind, nice and balanced person is to you?
Needless to say, mood upheavals will impact your ability to stay organized, feel calm and collected and most importantly it can affect your health and relationships with
Important NOTE: The highest rate of psychiatric hospitalizations
is in October and the highest rate of suicide is in May. Keep an extra eye on
family, friends, and colleagues around those times. Look up signs of suicide on
Marla Stone Lifestyle Coach and Professional Organizer
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Professional Organizing Services, Personal Home Organizers, Home Organizer Services, Home Organization Services, Professional Organizers, Home Organization, Home Organizing services and is a member of NAPO. She also offers coaching and mentoring to increase wellness.
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Steps for decluttering
Space Analysis-Analyze your space and figure out what you want to use it for. If it is your garage for instance, do you want to park your cars or will it be a workshop or a kid's play room? Understand that if you want to use the space for more then one activity, realize the potential of the space and all that it can be. Make drawings, even if you don't draw well, of what you think it would look like. Cut out pictures from magazines of ideas you have for the space. Visualize the space in your mind's eye. Discuss the space with family and friends and generate ideas. Call a professional organizer and get a free consultation about your space. Next take everything out of your space.
Take everything out of the space. Starting with an empty space will help you determine a home for everything you are keeping and give you a blank canvas to design the space from scratch. Find an area to sort through the things you will keep and the items you will eliminate.
Eliminate. Of course the most difficult part is getting rid of stuff that you have held onto for some reason or another...and guess what, even if you haven't used it for years and aren't sure when you will, it is still difficult to get rid of stuff. Have four piles. One for Keep, one for Give, one for Trash, and one for Miscellaneous or just can't decide. This makes the task go quicker. Once you get everything sorted you will be ready for putting everything in its place.
Putting Everything in its place. I always say there is a home for everything and it's true. You will find a home for every item you want in your space. The reason it is a good idea to have a home for everything is simple...stuff will end up back where it belongs, and it will be easy to find when you want it. Since you designed the space ahead of time it will be pretty easy to move everything into place. If there are heavy items there are great tools at the hardware store for moving and sliding heavy peices. This is also a time to hire a handyman, or get some handy friends over, if you want things hung, pictures, racks, wall units put together etc... Once your finished sit and relax and take it all in.
Sit and Relax and take it all in. Finally your space is complete. This is a time to use the space and see if it really works for you. You may want to make adjustments and move things around and even eliminate more stuff you realize you're not going to use in the space. You may also want to purchase some new items for your space. Reflect on the space and make sure it is how you really imagined it. Hopefully with all the planning and carefully considered steps your space is perfect for you and voila!
Marla Stone is a Professional Organizer and a Lifestyle Coach
She serves Orange County, Los Angeles County and San Diego County
She is also available for telephone and or skype consultations nationwide.
Organize Your Self and Space!
Marla is known as the organizing clutter therapist®. Marla earned her BA in Psychology and a Master's in Social Work and is the founder of I-Deal-Lifestyle, a Self and Space Organization Service.