Decision Making Chart copyright marla stone
It is hard to make difficult decisions. You may be in denial that decisions can be a process and not want to go forward with making a decision due to lack of confidence and or decreased motivation. You may put off decision making, struggling and agonizing over even the simplest of decisions because you could be torn by the options or lack of options. Decisions, decsions, decisions!!!
But there is a really easy method that I have come up with called
"THE DECISION MAKING CHART"
THE DECISION MAKING CHART (Example Above)
Use this simple chart every time you make difficult or simple decisions. It will help you focus on how to get to a preferred reaction/action!! It will help you make a decision.
Steps for decluttering
Space Analysis-Analyze your space and figure out what you want to use it for. If it is your garage for instance, do you want to park your cars or will it be a workshop or a kid's play room? Understand that if you want to use the space for more then one activity, realize the potential of the space and all that it can be. Make drawings, even if you don't draw well, of what you think it would look like. Cut out pictures from magazines of ideas you have for the space. Visualize the space in your mind's eye. Discuss the space with family and friends and generate ideas. Call a professional organizer and get a free consultation about your space. Next take everything out of your space.
Take everything out of the space. Starting with an empty space will help you determine a home for everything you are keeping and give you a blank canvas to design the space from scratch. Find an area to sort through the things you will keep and the items you will eliminate.
Eliminate. Of course the most difficult part is getting rid of stuff that you have held onto for some reason or another...and guess what, even if you haven't used it for years and aren't sure when you will, it is still difficult to get rid of stuff. Have four piles. One for Keep, one for Give, one for Trash, and one for Miscellaneous or just can't decide. This makes the task go quicker. Once you get everything sorted you will be ready for putting everything in its place.
Putting Everything in its place. I always say there is a home for everything and it's true. You will find a home for every item you want in your space. The reason it is a good idea to have a home for everything is simple...stuff will end up back where it belongs, and it will be easy to find when you want it. Since you designed the space ahead of time it will be pretty easy to move everything into place. If there are heavy items there are great tools at the hardware store for moving and sliding heavy peices. This is also a time to hire a handyman, or get some handy friends over, if you want things hung, pictures, racks, wall units put together etc... Once your finished sit and relax and take it all in.
Sit and Relax and take it all in. Finally your space is complete. This is a time to use the space and see if it really works for you. You may want to make adjustments and move things around and even eliminate more stuff you realize you're not going to use in the space. You may also want to purchase some new items for your space. Reflect on the space and make sure it is how you really imagined it. Hopefully with all the planning and carefully considered steps your space is perfect for you and voila!
Marla Stone is a Professional Organizer and a Lifestyle Coach
She serves Orange County, Los Angeles County and San Diego County
She is also available for telephone and or skype consultations nationwide.
Organize Your Self and Space!
As a Professional Organizer I am always surprised when I get a call from someone who says they want help with Organizing, only to walk into their home and find it overly organized and almost sterile. The client, although, seemingly "organized" is so focused on organizing and cleaning and dusting everything that they can't function in the rest of their life. They can never truly relax in their space. Chances are the client may suffer from either OCD(Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) or OCPD (Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder). OCD (clean type) as I call it, drives a person to obsess so heavily on cleaning they become compulsive about finding every germ, peice of dust and cobweb. I heard one lady scrubbed her bathtub so hard with abrasives she scrubbed the enamel off. That is overdoing it. I also heard about a guy who vacumns daily spending close to 4 hours a day with the tool. He values being with friends and being an enterpreneur, but his obsession with cleanliness and order has taken over. This is a very serious mental health challenge and the person may seriously want to seek professional help.
OCPD as described in a previous blog is the over consideration of a project, so much so that you lose the point of the task. The person has difficulty delgating tasks to others and holds on to everything, even if rendered useless. Clients with those traits will have a relatively organized space, but with something or some room just never really completed, and filled with stuff they do not use, want or need.
With clients that have these overly obsessed and compulsive behaviors it is a big step to allow a Professional Organizer in. Remember part of being obsessed and overly focused on something is the control. Allowing someone else to come in a delegate the movement, change and removal of your stuff is brave, daring and risky. Come on, it's your stuff.
It reminds me of George Carlton's skit on "stuff" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MvgN5gCuLac
Please watch and entertain yourself.
Work on balancing your life, your stuff, how clean, how dirty, how organized and how happy you really are. Put things into perspective. Ask yourself what you truly value and what you really want to accomplish in life. If you value family time, and travel. Ask yourself if polishing your stove 3 times a week will get you more family time and travel, and if the answer is no, lighten up on the polishing.
So feel the dirt and grime and chaos and relax anyway!!
Becoming a Professional Organizer in Orange County, California is one of my greatest blessings. I feel so grateful to have found a new career that is as fulfilling as being a Therapist . I still help people, and I get to move around. It is quite an honor to still serve standing up. I love organzing entire houses, offices, storage units, you name it. I organize kitchens, by not only clearing clutter, but I look at every food product in a person's pantry and their fridge. Recently I found at least 30 items in a client's pantry with hydrogenated oil. Hydrogenated oil causes cancer and heart disease. You can find it in certain peanut butter and lots of crackers and cookies. I also still see products like sweet and low and splenda, both found to cause death in all rat studies. I assist clients in understanding the health consequences, and urge them to remove the products. I show people how to read labels for chemicals food companies are putting in the products that actually make us ill. I love coaching and educating people. Most of all I am thrilled to be able to help people identify their own Ideal lifestyle.
Setting goals is a difficult exercise for most people. The reason goal setting is so daunting is the follow-through to achieve the goal. Many people have ideas about what they want in life, but the effort, work and discipline it takes to reach their goals may be overwhelming. Priortizing goals is the first step. Ask yourself what is the most important idea or concept or behavior you want to work on. Let's take decreasing calories as a goal. First:
So here is what goal setting and implementation would look like:
Decreasing Calories Ideas
Orange County Professional Organizer helps you get your home, office, and business organized. We serve all of Orange County, Los Angeles, and San Diego. We also serve your area by special request.
Please call 949-709-7000 for a free 30 min. phone consultation.
Marla Stone Lifestyle Expert is featured in the Orange County Register is the clutter buster.
Marla is known as the organizing clutter therapist®. Marla earned her BA in Psychology and a Master's in Social Work and is the founder of I-Deal-Lifestyle, a Self and Space Organization Service.