Want a more organized home without getting rid of everything you love?
​The Clutter Remedy: A Guide to Getting Organized for Those Who Love Their Stuff helps you have less clutter, more order, and a home that still feels inspiring, personal, comfortable, and filled with the things you use, that serve a purpose, that are sentimental, and that you genuinely love.
Getting organized doesn't come simply from getting rid of things. I know this sounds strange, but the push to get rid of things and put them to death does not solve clutter issues. I find that when people do a rushed or pushed purge, they go out and buy more stuff fairly quickly. And eliminating things doesn't teach you how to stay organized long-term.
Focusing on what you will keep is the best way to declutter and create the dream space you've always wanted. This is one of the central ideas behind The Clutter Remedy. Getting organized is not about throwing away your life, living with empty shelves, or getting rid of treasured belongings. It is about making conscious decisions about what belongs in your home and creating spaces that support the life you want.
A Different Kind of Decluttering and Home Organization Book. Countless books cover decluttering, home organization, simplifying your life, and getting rid of clutter; all seem to push the "get rid of" philosophy.
The Clutter Remedy takes a different approach.
Written by Marla Stone, MSW, a professional organizer, lifestyle expert, former psychotherapist, interior designer, and founder of I-Deal-Lifestyle, the book looks at clutter from both the inside and the outside.
Why do we hold on to things we don't use, that aren't doing anything for our lives, aren't sentimental, and that we certainly aren't in love with anymore?
Why do we end up getting rid of things that we do love and keeping items that don't resonate at all?  
Why do we keep shopping for the same old stuff, only to realize it doesn't match our current style or desires?
How do our emotions, habits, relationships, beliefs, and communication affect the way we organize our homes?
And most importantly: how do we create lasting organization without giving up everything we enjoy owning?
The Clutter Remedy explores the psychology behind clutter while providing practical organizing strategies, decluttering tools, home organization ideas, and step-by-step guidance for creating an environment that works for you.
Organizing for People Who Love Their Stuff. When you love books, clothes, photographs, collectibles, artwork, family treasures, kitchenware, décor, shoes, memorabilia, and beautiful things, this book was written with you in mind.
Organization is not about how little you own.
It is about your relationship with what you own. In an ideal space, everything that surrounds you works for your daily, weekly, monthly life and year-round.
A well-designed home gives the things you value a place to live. Furniture placement, plus cabinets, shelving, armoires, and end tables with drawers, gives your stuff a place to call home. It makes belongings easier to find, use, enjoy, and care for. Learning how to accommodate additional furniture, or swapping less useful pieces for more purposeful ones, is also the secret path to a space that looks like a dream instead of a thrown-together mess.
The Clutter Remedy helps readers decide what they want, use, and love, rather than following rigid rules about how many possessions a person is allowed to keep.
That distinction changes everything.
Clutter affects far more than closets and cabinets.
An overcrowded environment impacts how a room functions, how easily you move through your day, how quickly you find things, and how peaceful your surroundings feel.
Creating an organized design, along with homes for what you own, opens the door to a more intentional lifestyle.
The book explores topics related to:

• Decluttering your home
• Home organization
• Closet organization
• Kitchen organization
• Paper and office organization
• Organizing sentimental belongings
• Eliminating what does not work 
• Creating functional living spaces
• Increasing behaviors that clear clutter regularly
• Understanding the symbolism of clutter
• Learning how to live perpetually organized
• Simple Feng Shui tips for your environment
• Healing emotional and physical clutter
• How mental and physical health impacts starting a project

The goal is not perfection.
The goal is creating a home that supports your life.
Why Getting Organized Changes More Than Your Home.
Our surroundings communicate with us constantly. Matter matters.
A room filled with unfinished projects, unused possessions, piles of paperwork, clothing that no longer works for us, and objects connected to the past creates a very different experience from a home filled with things we intentionally chose.
Organizing creates clarity.
It gives you greater awareness of what you own and how you live. It also lets you decide what you want to carry forward into the next part of your life.
That is why The Clutter Remedy: A Guide To Getting Organized For Those Who Love Their Stuff is more than another decluttering book.
It connects your physical environment with your thoughts, habits, emotions, relationships, and lifestyle.
Stop Fighting With Your Stuff.  Many people believe they are simply “bad at organizing.”
They are not.
Traditional organizing advice often focuses entirely on containers, labels, storage products, and getting rid of possessions.
Those tools address only part of the problem.
Long-lasting organization begins with understanding your relationship with your belongings and learning how to make clear decisions about what to keep.
Once those decisions become easier with The Clutter Remedy's four-part criteria, organizing becomes easier.
Your home starts working for you instead of working against you.
Ready to Discover The Clutter Remedy? Whether you are searching for the best book about getting organized for good, looking for unique decluttering tips, organizing an overflowing business, dealing with sentimental clutter, or simply seeking a more peaceful, less dramatic, and functional way to live with the things you love, The Clutter Remedy offers a refreshing alternative to extreme minimalism.
Explore more organizing inspiration, ideas from The Clutter Remedy, home organization tips, decluttering advice, design inspiration, and lifestyle ideas on Pinterest and at I-Deal-Lifestyle.com.
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The Clutter Remedy is for people who love their stuff—and want to love their space too.
If you have been searching for a realistic way to declutter your home, organize your belongings, create more space, improve your organizing skills, and finally stay organized, start with The Clutter Remedy.
Getting organized isn't about getting rid of your stuff.
It is about creating space for the life you want to live.
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For CEOs, HR leaders, operations teams, and training departments, clutter is not a housekeeping issue. It is a performance issue. It shows up in missed deadlines, delayed decisions, scattered communication, duplicated work, emotional exhaustion, and chronic procrastination. It lives in offices, inboxes, file systems, calendars, workflows, language, and leadership habits. When clutter takes over, strategy gets buried, priorities get blurred, and teams lose traction.
The I-Deal-Lifestyle approach addresses all types of clutter, physical, emotional, environmental, and strategic, at the root. It is not based on shame, rigid minimalism, or one-size-fits-all systems. It is a respect-based strategy that helps people organize themselves, their space, and what matters most in life. The tools and steps for business improvement remove what interferes, creating an environment that supports action, clarity, and follow-through. This is where productivity rises, morale improves, and performance strengthens across the company.
Most organizations treat procrastination as a self-discipline problem. Yet it is often a clutter problem. When employees are surrounded by visual and digital overload, unfinished or lost tasks, paper piles, poorly designed office space, poor emotional health, and unreliable communication, the brain stalls. People freeze up, then avoid, delay, and shut down. The problem is not laziness. The problem is the instability of the self and the environment. Every pile of unmade decisions, unclear priorities, overaccumulation of stuff, and every vague interpretation increases resistance. Business and staff clutter challenges become a total drag on execution.
The first principle of Declutter Your Strategy™ is to respect the staff. People work better when they feel respected, not judged. The same is true for teams. A respectful organizing culture does not humiliate employees for how they think, store, process, or create. It studies behavior, identifies patterns, and builds strategies and systems that match authentic human functioning. When companies stop using blame and start using a strategic follow-through protocol, people engage in the company’s vision.
The second principle is categorizing with I-Deal-Lifestyle's business organizing services. Categorizing is one of the most powerful productivity tools in any workplace. When information, materials, projects, and responsibilities are sorted into clear categories, the mind relaxes and focus sharpens. Categories eliminate confusion about what’s what. They reduce wasted time searching for things and information. Categories help employees retrieve information faster, delegate with precision, and complete tasks with less mental strain. A company that categorizes well moves faster because it thinks more clearly about each step toward a successful outcome.
The third principle is fine-tuning. Organizing is not a one-time event. It is an ongoing refinement process. Fine-tuning means sub-categorizing every paper, product, and process to continue aligning with the business’s timeliness, goals, and outcomes. Fine-tuning a business includes understanding workflows, how the team communicates, desk layouts, digital storage, meeting structure, and daily habits. This refinement creates sustainability and prosperity. It keeps teams from sliding back into chaos after a short burst of business decluttering.
The fourth principle is understanding the emotional side of clutter with strategic coaching. In businesses, clutter is tied to decreased motivation and interest, fear of letting go, attachment to old processes, overcompensation, perfectionism, and avoidance. Companies carry emotional clutter in holding on to employees that do not align with their outlook, outdated procedures, bloated reports, legacy habits, and excessive approvals. Individuals carry it in piles, postponed decisions, and overstuffed schedules. When that emotional clutter is identified and cleared, people reclaim energy. They become more decisive, more present, and more effective.
The fifth principle is how we speak. The words people use shape behavior. Impeding language™ slows progress, weakens commitment, and keeps action stuck in the past. In the workplace, “indecisive language,” “if,” “kinda,” “maybe,” and “possibly” are endless qualifiers. These responses create vague ownership, soft promises, and circular discussion. When leaders and teams change their language, they change their results. Decluttering how leaders talk to their employees allows clearer thinking and creates stronger execution. This is one of the reasons Marla Stone’s media page and bio page position her work distinctly in the productivity and organizational space.
The sixth principle is environment. Space affects behavior. A cluttered office, crowded and unplanned workstations, a chaotic break room, an overloaded conference room, or a disorganized digital desktop quietly drains attention throughout the day. The environment either supports performance or interferes with it. When a space is designed with intention, people think, work, and collaborate optimally. This applies to Fortune 500 headquarters and to small businesses with a lean team and limited square footage. By uplifting and creating positive energy and the flow of the company’s floor plan, decor, and space planning, the business will flourish. 
The seventh principle is creating an ideal lifestyle mantra for all staff, the CEO down, and work style by design, not by accident. In a business setting, this means aligning the environment, strategies, priorities, and habits with the company’s actual goals. It means building a culture where people find what they want, finish what they start, and focus on what drives growth. It means removing the box instead of telling people to think outside it. Once all types of clutter are gone, innovation breathes.
The eighth principle is seasonal review. Just as homes require regular reassessment, organizations benefit from periodic decluttering and reset points. Teams will evolve year-round. Goals and customer demand shift. Roles expand, and turnover occurs. Updates to the data are endless. Quarterly seasonal space and staff organization keep companies agile. It enhances task completion. It helps leaders identify what is outdated, what is optimal now, what is slowing execution, and what now deserves space, budget, and attention. The most effective companies do not want to be managed by emergency. They want to maintain easy accessibility to their current operating standard, year-round.
For training departments, this work belongs in leadership development, employee wellness, productivity training, and operational efficiency programs. Employees do not perform at their best when they are overwhelmed by physical, digital, emotional, and linguistic clutter. I-Deal-Lifestyle's corporate and business services address the root causes of stagnation and produce measurable returns. Employees gain stronger follow-through, improved concentration, better decision-making, and a greater sense of wholeness and togetherness. Teams communicate more clearly. Managers lead with more consistency. The organization stays virile and strong.
For CEOs, this is not a soft skill. This is a business strategy. Decluttering maladaptive strategies strengthens decision-making, increases speed, lowers procrastination, supports accountability, and improves workforce follow-through. It helps protect time, one of the company’s most expensive assets. It also improves culture because people feel calmer and more capable in a self-realized, clean, and clear environment. When the workplace stops blocking the nervous system, people gain access to better thinking, stronger creativity, and steadier productivity.
That is why companies looking for measurable results benefit from Declutter Your Strategy™, a corporate learning approach designed to help teams become more insightful, communicate with intention, strategize their processes, declutter their space, sustain momentum, and understand and eliminate emotional obstacles.
Small businesses benefit just as powerfully. In a smaller company, clutter has fewer places to hide. One disorganized system can affect the entire operation. One cluttered leader will create confusion for the entire team. One unclear process can slow revenue, service, and growth. The I-Deal-Lifestyle business and organizing strategies give small businesses leverage. It helps them operate with the clarity and discipline of a much larger organization without losing flexibility.
The real cost of clutter is not the pile itself. When companies address clutter in a strategic, respectful, and psychologically informed way, they do more than organize space. They unlock the highest standards of performance.
The companies that rise are not the ones with the most meetings, tools, or policies. They are the ones who create clear, well-thought-out ideas and execution. Companies that deploy Declutter Your Strategy™ experience 10-fold increases in production.
That is the power of I-Deal-Lifestyle. It transforms clutter from a hidden drain into a visible business opportunity. It helps companies clear the path, sharpen the mission, and move forward with greater focus, productivity, and purpose.
Also, check out the I-Deal-Lifestyle mental health consultant services for individuals, professionals, organizations, and the community.

When someone you love refuses mental health treatment or medication, families often interpret the situation as stubbornness or lack of cooperation. The more accurate explanation involves misunderstanding, incomplete diagnosis, and lack of insight into symptoms.
One major factor is anosognosia, a neurological condition involving lack of insight into one’s illness. Anosognosia prevents a person from recognizing that symptoms are present. The individual experiences the symptoms yet does not identify them as part of an illness. Because insight is absent, treatment and medication are rejected.
During my seventeen years as a psychiatric social worker and psychotherapist, another pattern appeared repeatedly: misdiagnosis and incomplete diagnosis lead directly to treatment non-adherence.
Individuals frequently receive a diagnosis without receiving full education about the symptoms connected to that diagnosis. In many situations the person receives only part of the diagnostic picture. Medication improves certain symptoms while other symptoms continue.
When symptoms continue, the individual concludes that medication does not work and stops taking it.
A common example occurs when someone receives a diagnosis of bipolar disorder while also experiencing symptoms of a personality disorder. Medication stabilizes mania and depression. Medication does not treat personality disorder patterns. Mood symptoms improve while interpersonal instability, impulsivity, anger, or relationship disruption continues. The person then concludes that the diagnosis is incorrect or that medication is ineffective.
This pattern produces treatment non-adherence.
Another example involves obsessive compulsive disorder. Medication reduces anxiety and depression associated with OCD. Medication does not directly stop compulsive behaviors such as checking, counting, or repetitive rituals. Without education about this distinction, individuals conclude that treatment failed.
These situations occur because diagnostic education is often incomplete. Many clinicians identify the most visible symptoms while other diagnostic patterns remain unexplained to the individual receiving treatment.
When people do not understand their symptoms, they cannot understand their diagnosis. When the diagnosis remains unclear, adherence to treatment declines.
During years of clinical practice, a different outcome appeared whenever individuals gained clear understanding of their symptoms and diagnoses. When people recognize the exact symptoms they experience and understand how medication targets those symptoms, participation in treatment increases and stability improves.
This observation led to the development of Self Impressionism: A Medication and Treatment Alliance and Awareness Program for the Prevention of Misdiagnosis.
Self Impressionism is a structured educational workbook program designed to help individuals identify and understand their symptoms. The program guides participants through exercises that reveal patterns in mood, behavior, thinking, perception, and daily functioning.
Participants learn to:
• identify their symptoms clearly
• distinguish symptoms from medication side effects
• recognize emotional and behavioral triggers
• understand how medication interacts with specific symptoms
• communicate symptoms accurately to clinicians
The workbook includes structured exercises such as symptom awareness checklists, life pattern exercises, decision charts, and visual awareness tools. These exercises allow participants to recognize the full scope of their experiences and to describe them clearly to clinicians.
A clear symptom description leads to a more accurate diagnosis. Accurate diagnosis leads to more effective treatment decisions and stronger adherence to medication when symptoms are present.
Self Impressionism functions as both a personal awareness program and a clinical teaching program.
The program serves several groups:
• individuals seeking understanding and self-awareness about their mental health challenges
• families who want to understand their loved ones and provide informed support
• psychiatric hospitals
• behavioral health treatment programs
• outpatient mental health clinics
• residential recovery programs
• community mental health centers
• peer support and family education programs
Psychiatric staff and behavioral health programs use the Self Impressionism workbook as a structured teaching program that helps individuals understand symptoms, diagnoses, and treatment. Increased understanding strengthens the alliance between individuals and their treatment providers.
Families often struggle when a loved one rejects treatment. Understanding the roles of symptoms, misdiagnosis, and anosognosia helps families understand why treatment resistance occurs and how support and education improve outcomes.
Self Impressionism workshops take place this summer at community centers throughout South Orange County.
Individuals, families, and professionals interested in attending can request an invitation.
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In my opinion, a prolonged escalation experience raises questions about support continuity and accountability
When Scale Replaces Accountability
In my opinion, I have been in a technical escalation cycle with Apple for more than three weeks with nothing resolved.
The issue is specific. In my experience, my iPhone cannot AirDrop to my Mac. Yet:
My iPhone can AirDrop to my husband’s phone.
My iPhone can AirDrop to friends’ phones.
My Mac can AirDrop to my iPhone.
The failure exists in one direction only: iPhone → Mac. Based on my experience and the diagnostics performed, it appears to be a contained compatibility conflict inside Apple’s integrated system. That distinction matters, in my opinion.
Fifteen Hours of Escalation
In my experience, more than 15 hours of calls with Senior Advisors, executive relations, and multiple diagnostic logging uploads resulted in repeated procedural loops. Each interaction generated a new case number. The original case number did not persist. I could never get the name of the first person who started my case and was on the phone with for three hours. Continuity for my family and me dissolved. Every new representative had to reconstruct the file from the beginning.
In my experience, there was no single accountable case owner. Engineers reviewed logs internally but did not communicate directly with the advisors or me. According to the advisors, all contact with the engineers was through email. It seems to me they are untouchable. And for me, with no clear feedback from the engineers,  unreliable. No defined timeline was provided. No definitive explanation was offered. Additional diagnostics were requested repeatedly.
The loop became procedural: upload diagnostics, wait, call back, repeat.
In my opinion, when progress depends primarily on repeated follow-up rather than centralized ownership, the customer effectively manages the escalation.
The Ecosystem Question
Apple markets seamless integration. In my opinion, that promise contrasts with the volume of public forum discussions describing one-directional AirDrop failures, stalled transfers, post-update inconsistencies, and cross-device irregularities.
In my view, complex ecosystem features rely on multiple interdependent systems — networking, Bluetooth, Wi-Fi, Apple ID authentication, security permissions, and pairing protocols. When one-directional failure occurs, coordination across internal teams appears necessary.
From a customer perspective, fragmentation can feel like diffusion of ownership.
Transparency and Communication
Repeated diagnostic uploads without a clear explanation create uncertainty. Apple states diagnostics are secure. Yet I still do not have a clear idea what they logged out of my computer. And some advisors go off my computer share when I put in a password, and some don't. In my experience, limited visibility into findings, unclear explanations about my computer, and a lack of confidence in the process reduced my confidence in the process.
Transparency strengthens trust. Clear ownership reinforces accountability.
Scale and the Support Paradox
Large technology organizations often operate with tiered escalation systems. As companies scale, support processes become layered. Communication flows through ticket systems rather than direct engineering access.
In my opinion, when resolution depends heavily on persistence rather than system clarity, customers experience strain — particularly when device functionality affects professional work. In my personal case, my body suffered from long hours spent sitting and working on my computer, and from being held accountable to the mystery engineers for part of their job. 
Consumer Options and Oversight
In general, when consumers believe a technical or service issue remains unresolved after extended escalation, standard consumer avenues exist. These include filing complaints with agencies such as the Federal Trade Commission, a state Attorney General’s office, or the Better Business Bureau. Some customers also document their experiences publicly or share concerns with consumer journalists. In my case, I will take the time to advocate for any of you and myself who are experiencing what appears to me to be a sham of wasted time and money.
These types of oversight mechanisms exist across industries within established consumer protection frameworks. Mentioning them here is not an allegation of wrongdoing, but rather recognition that consumers have formal channels available when seeking further review.
A Personal Reflection
This post reflects my experience and perspective. Others may have different outcomes. But after being reminded by one advisor that Apple is a "trillion-dollar company", I almost felt uneasy speaking up.
This is not about a single AirDrop failure. It is about whether visible accountability remains central to the support experience.
Customers do not expect perfection. They expect ownership, clarity, and resolution.
In my opinion, the strength of a technology brand is demonstrated not only in innovation, but in how consistently it closes the loop when systems fail.
The “Genius” brand historically represented technical mastery. Today, mastery is measured in continuity, transparency, and case resolution.
Marla Stone, I-Deal-Lifestyle.com 
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​Clutter rarely explodes into a home. It seeps.
A stack of mail lands on the counter. A box from a move never quite gets unpacked. A closet quietly absorbs one more “I might need this.” A garage becomes a holding zone for decisions postponed.
Nothing dramatic. Just gradual accumulation.
Then one day you try to open a drawer, and it resists. You attempt to park in the garage and negotiate with storage bins. You search for one document and end up finding twelve unrelated things instead.
That is usually the moment people realize they are not living in a system. They are living in a storage unit.
Clutter is not a character flaw. It is a delayed decision-making process layered over time. It is sentiment. It is busyness. It is a transition. It is growth without environmental recalibration.
And beneath it all is a simple truth: the space no longer reflects your current life, the one you dream about, and long for.
When I-Deal-Lifestyle enters a home, we do not start by tossing. We start by clarifying.
Every item is evaluated through defined criteria. Will you use it? Does it serve a purpose? Is it sentimental? Do you love it?
This is not about minimalism. It is about alignment.
When belongings are gathered up and categorized into broad categories, leaving clear floors and countertops, something starts to shift. The piles stop feeling like personal booby traps. Your stuff becomes inventory. Once inventory is clearly organized by categories, it can be fine-tuned. Once refined, it can be placed intentionally in containers, bins, drawer inserts, and a permanent resting place with like items.
There is that moment during every project when the space exhales. A countertop reappears. A closet closes smoothly. The garage floor becomes visible again. The room feels lighter, not because it is empty, but because it is decluttered and organized.
What surprises people most is not the visual change. It is the mental change.
Clutter creates subtle cognitive drag. Every misplaced item is a micro-interruption. Every overfilled drawer is a small negotiation. Over time, that friction accumulates.
When systems are restored, mental and emotional health, and your aesthetically pleasing space return.
Morning routines stabilize. Paper has a defined home. Seasonal items rotate logically. Belongings live where they are used. Maintenance becomes natural rather than exhausting.
We do not create temporary neatness. We implement placement based on frequency, function, and seasonality. Categories are refined into subcategories, which are then further refined into even finer categories. Storage reflects the other parts of your organized space. And the strategies you learn are designed to hold.
With an adequate number of professional organizers, most projects are completed within three days. Not because we rush, but because decisiveness, person power, and coordinated strategy reduce delay.
Lower hourly rates often extend timelines. Structure shortens them.
Decluttering is not a purge. It is recalibration.
It is standing in your own environment and choosing what supports your life now.
When the work is complete, clients often stand quietly in their own homes. They notice how the air feels different. How surfaces remain clear. How decisions feel lighter.
They are not walking into a staged photograph. They are walking into a functional space that reflects who they are becoming.
Buried in clutter feels overwhelming.
Coming up organized feels stable.
And yes, when your environment aligns with your life, you rise out of the chaos — steady, clear, and grounded — smelling like a rose.
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Grief is sneaky. It is petulant. It is a snare, a trap, a tsunami, and also a river that eventually runs dry. And even when the tears stop gushing, and you feel empty of any feelings at all, grief can swirl up again and create a tornado that spins you around, dizzying you into that oblivion all over again. So do we ever get through it? I know you want the answer to be yes, and yet I will not attest to that, since although I am closer to being graced with a peaceful heart and a loving mode today, I have no idea what tomorrow’s nature will be like.
Great loss is generally what creates deep grief, and is there really any other kind of grief? I myself have not experienced mild grief. I understand that subdued grief or denial, eruptive anger, and bargaining away the grief are part and parcel to grief. I know that not getting out of bed, not showering, and not finding joy in the simplest things is depression and a huge stomp of grief’s vengeance. Grief hides behind so many feelings, actions, behaviors, and mishaps, and it can hide the spirit that drives us into places we do not want to go, nor ever dreamed was possible.
Each month, grief dabbles with drops of sparkly soul days when laughter rings, the sun lies on our faces, and a walk through nature takes us to our happy state, yet it can always swoop back to remind us we cannot slip out the back, escape, and resume our life before grief. You can remind yourself that the ultimate goal is acceptance, and what does that even mean in terms of the force of our emotions? Like nature, emotions just keep on coming. There is no stopping those darned feelings. Yet acceptance comes and goes, and will it someday be permanent?
I accept I have lost people that I love. I accept they are in a different plane of existence. I acknowledge all the wounds and heavenliness of knowing them. I go back and forth in my thoughts about who they were to me, what they did to me, and for me, and always end up back at how they loved me. Then I ponder all the things I could have done better, the times I was overwhelmed and did not call or visit, and I remember how much I did call and visit. It is like that ride at an amusement park where you swing back and forth, spin, dip, and dive. Yet unlike the roller coasters, haunted houses, Ferris wheels, scramblers, tilt-a-whirls, and bumper cars—which end rather quickly and without harm or grief—it is the scariest, bumpiest, and most frightening ride of all. So, as it is difficult to go on an amusement ride gracefully, I do not think grace has a part in grief.
Being graceful through grief when you are new to it is like being graceful the first time you ice skate. Not possible. Yet despite hours of skating and eventually skating backwards, gliding effortlessly, and even twirling without falling, do we get better at loss as it hits us more than once? Is it that we get more numb, more rational, jaded, contemplative, and worn out? Could it be that deep, difficult relationships hit harder than acquaintances or distant family members? Does each loss have a different emotional barometer? The answer lies within each of us. We are all different beings with a myriad of responses to loss. So if I am wrong, how do we incorporate grace and gratitude into the process of losing loved ones, careers, a limb, a relationship, or any loss that imprinted us for good?
In Wikipedia https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gracefulness, gracefulness, or being graceful, is the physical characteristic of displaying “pretty agility” in the form of elegant movement, poise, or balance. Wiki also states this: “Gracefulness is sometimes also attributed to non-corporeal human actions, such as the use of language (‘a graceful turn of phrase’) or the control of emotion (‘accepting defeat gracefully’).”
In doing more research about “pretty agility,” in context with our emotions, I realized that a way out of grief is to learn a ballerina plié, which means to bend while keeping your heels on the floor, becoming agile in our emotional responses to life’s greatest disappointments and sorrows, with our eyes looking ahead to our dreams and goals. Instead of procrastination and a deadening of our mission in life because of hard blows, we rise to the occasions of our greatness.
Breathing in and blowing out the musty air steadily, until our mind softens and is wistfully at peace. Not unconscious, yet consciously quiet and still.
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Vacationing costs time and money and yes creates memories however getting your residence and work space organized, upgraded, and designed can take a holidays place and last a life time. I suggest do a little of both and by the holidays coming up you'll be rested and more settled than ever!

Getting decluttered and clutter free often goes hand in hand with upgrading cabinets and creating interior storage space such as improved kitchen bathroom cabinets, and closets. Getting optimal storage options such as Costco’s five tier gorilla rack only sold in your local store for around 99.99 is my favorite. It holds twelve 66-quart Sterilite bins with the purple lock handles which are my favorite bins.

Once you have more storage items and a new or used armoire, dressers, end tables with some storage opportunities you can categorize your belongings and give them a fresh new home. This extra space also makes seasonal organizing by season a cinch.

​Next designing your space and furniture with some new paint, fabric, redesigning furniture placement, tiling, fresh carpet or exploring Feng Shui can make your space aesthetic and exciting as a five-star suite at a luxury hotel or airbnb.

Whatever you decide remember www.i-deal-lifestyle.com in the US and globally www.theclutterremedy.com will help you transform your life and space, forever!
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I often have clients who feel overwhelmed by personal issues. They call me to check out their space, and they can organize independently with a few simple space planning strategies. Yet these clients don't only contact me for a bit of clutter and Feng Shui. They call me because they are lonely, unsure about their careers, or, often, worried about their love lives. So, I give them some great exercises and coaching on how to find an ideal partner.

So, what is an ideal partner? It is different for everyone. Everyone will want to figure out 30 things they want in a perfect partner and go BIG! Fairy Godmother Big! Also, do not put any no, non, or not words on the list. So instead of saying not an addicted person, you would write it as addiction-free. Figuring out what you genuinely want in another human you want to partner with is like having a map on a treasure hunt.  Without a criterion, you're going on blind dates blindly, and you won't know the correct questions to explore the person you're meeting with. Think about it: when you look for a car, a home, or a new career, you check off boxes and make lists to make a great decision. Why not do that to find the love of a lifetime? Once you make your list, email me at [email protected], and I will tell you parts two, three, and four of this miraculous exercise. 

Next, knowing these ten most important things about someone you become interested in will tell you if the person can become a lifetime partner.

1. Did you have similar parenting styles growing up? This is very important. When the parenting styles of each person are completely opposite or different, it will often impact their ability to have a long-term relationship. 
2. Knowing about this person's childhood, family relationships, friends, and how they got along with others is essential to knowing how they will get along with you, your family, and your friends. Will they enhance or hurt your current and future relationships?
3. Mutual physical and mental attraction is a significant factor in a couple's lasting love rather than only for a while. It's okay to love how someone looks to you; an IQ difference of even 5 points can dampen conversations, how you view the world, and communication.
4. Sexual compatibility and monogamy versus non-monogamy are huge. Get that straight as soon as possible. Ask the person if they have cheated on other partners or have been comfortable with open relationships. Ask them Are you monogamous?  Don't use the word "faithful, " since it has a different meaning. A dog can be faithful, but it doesn't mean it's not going down the street to screw a poodle.
​5. Knowing the habits, hobbies, favorite foods, and music will be something to discover before getting too cozy. When you find out the person loves to sit around watching TV in their underwear, play online poker daily, eat llamas, and listen to death metal at the highest volume, it can be a deal breaker when you realize this is their ideal lifestyle.
6. Make sure your family, friends, aunts, uncles, and cousins love your prospective partner as much as you do. If your choice of partner is someone who rubs everyone the wrong way, or even a few of them, you can be sure to feel the same way about them when you open up your eyes and see them clearly. Your family often knows and loves you more than you know and love yourself, especially when you're reeling in an emotional love tidal wave. Your loved ones can see the Tsunami mismatch even though you can't.
7. Spiritual, moral, and political disparities can wear on a couple long-term, eventually leading to frustration and dismay. When you like to go to church every Sunday and your partner is more of a pagan, the relationship will most likely come apart at the seams. When there are varying degrees of moral ineptitude, respect for each other will wane, and when there are extreme political views, debates will turn to loud arguments, fraying any sense of security and well-being. 
8. Knowing about their childhood and the close friends/relationships they had throughout their lives will help you understand how they got along with people and how they will get along with you, your family, and your friends. It will also tell you about how they view relationships in general. Understanding their support system and how they communicate with others will create a long-lasting relationship.
9. Understanding traumas, wounds, past break-ups, mental health challenges, and personality challenges (there are nine different personality disorders people can suffer from) will be imperative to knowing if you or your partner can handle the sticky stuff later in life. Too many couples get hitched without knowing each other's complex past issues. Most people don't unpack this until after marriage or moving in together. One or the other may be unable to handle the emotions that arise, and the togetherness will not remain intact.
10. How will you parent when you choose to have kids? This is a big thing to discuss prior to getting into a serious relationship. When there are two different parenting styles, the divide in the family is destructive, and the kids suffer the most from two different parental foghorns. Hence, number one is so significant on this list.

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