As a Professional Organizer I receive calls and emails daily from people who desire to get organized, purged and de-cluttered, yet many people who make that initial call or contact are not necessarily ready to go through with the physical process of getting organized. The process of getting organized, especially if there are long term hoarding, cluttering and or disorganization challenges, is not an easy one. It takes willpower, boldness, and a tenacious spirit to go through a home and or space that has become cluttered and disorganized. It is not for the weak at heart to start and complete a truly organized home and space.
Now don’t think that I am discouraging you from getting organized.
Only 80% of people that contact me are ready to dive in and go through
their stuff. The other 20% have the desire and ideas to get organized, yet they do not have the stamina. This lack of stamina can be caused by health, emotional, and or financial
challenges. Another block for getting organized can be lack of support via family members and or just plain old gripping fear. The more disorganized and cluttered a home the more disorganized and cluttered the mind/emotions may be.
The mind can be our best friend or our worst enemy when creating a path for
organization. The negative aspects of our mind and emotions can block our deepest desires and dreams to live clutter free. The negative thoughts and emotions entail worry, overthinking the process, panic, anger, defeat, and a vicious cycle of wanting to go forward, sliding back to clutter comfort, wanting to go forward and sliding back to comfort with the clutter. You may argue it is not comfort but I will say something must be comfortable about it or you would change the pattern. The analogy of a hamster in a cage going round and round and round but never really going anywhere comes to mind.
In order to encourage the process for the 20%, who have deep desires and dreams for
a clutter free and beautified space, there are ways to prepare. First of all start with your thoughts, ideas and dreams of having an organized space. Those twinkling ideas and dreams are the first step. They say if you can visualize something it is already in motion. So see your space in your mind’s eye the way you would love to have it. If it is difficult for you to visualize then look for pictures in magazines and cut out the pictures of rooms and homes and office spaces that match your ideas and dreams. Ponder on those organized and beautifully designed spaces and imagine you working and living in them.
Next take a few deep breaths and just relax in that visualization of you in a clear
and organized space. Do this visualization technique several times a day for five days.
Next visualize your cluttered space starting to be emptied and prepared for your ideal space. Visualize several organizers coming into your space and see them emptying the contents onto your driveway and or areas where sorting can be done. Next see yourself purging the items you have not used in the past two years. Acknowledge the feelings you feel during your visualization. See yourself purging the items you have not used and most likely will not ever use with grace, dignity and certainty. Visualize the support of your organizers. Now see your space emptied in your mind’s eye. How does it feel? Write down all the feelings you feel. Feel them deeply and then work through the feelings either through journaling, discussions with supportive and loving people, a counselor and or a life coach. Acknowledging the feelings and understanding when and why they started can be the first step towards allowing an organization process to unfold.
Once you are able to do all of the above start to visualize your space the way you
would love it to be. Again use magazines and or pictures of spaces that you find and love and keep that space in your mind’s eye. The process may take days, weeks and or months until you will finally be able to go through the actual physical process of getting organized.
Be patient. If it took you three, five or twenty years to clutter and disorganize your space it may take time and focused effort with visualization, journaling, support, counseling and or coaching to have your dreams come true.
Marla earned her BA in Psychology and a Master's in Social Work and is the founder of I-Deal-Lifestyle, a Self and Space Organization Service.