Okay, so your home is organized, you have a place for everything and you have been Feng Shui’d, you have cleared out personal clutter from yourself through some counseling or coaching. So what is next in self and home preservation? Protection of yourself and space is so important for having balance and harmony. Let’s face it not everyone and everything you let into your home and your life is “safe”.
You may have had bad experiences with everyone from strangers, neighbors, co-workers, friends and even family dealing with invasion of privacy to theft.
Perhaps you have unsafe health and dietary practices causing harm.
When it comes to self-preservation safe people and products will make your life more splendid. You may not be taking care of your body, emotions, mind and spirit in the best way possible. Digesting harmful people, food and things into your home, life and body can be a toxic mixture, keeping you feeling ill, regretful and tired.
What can you do to protect yourself from Space Invaders?
The first step is to recognize the importance of yourself and your space.
Like many masters have told us “Your Body is Your Temple” and “Your
Dwelling is Your Palace”.
The second step is to recognize why we are so reckless, when it comes to
self-protection. Perhaps you had your boundaries squashed as a kid, you have not conquered low confidence or shyness, loneliness has taken over, a careless or apathetic viewpoint of life
set in, or a lack of awareness and or “higher consciousness”, or a 360 degree
viewpoint regarding yourself and your world is unclear.
The third step is to learn how to protect yourself and space with
techniques and solid practices. It is never to late to start to protect self
and space with a steel veil of protection.
Evaluating and understanding your self, space and stuff is essential for an ideal lifestyle.
Ask yourself these questions.
What is great about your self? Do you love yourself?
What is great about your space and stuff?
Do you love your space and stuff?
Do you value and love your self, space and stuff?
Without self love and respect you cannot love and respect anything or anyone else.
Most people think they like or love their stuff, but upon further evaluation and understanding it turns out we often don’t like or love who we are with, where we live, and we don’t like or love all of our belongings. Sometimes we are lacking self love and respect, and we make hasty or incomplete decisions about who we live with, where we live, and what we buy and drag into our space. Thus we spend a lot of our lives returning things, breaking up and moving around.
One of life's biggest challenges is to make changes.
When we are not living in our ideal home, and surroundings, and we have not taken inventory of what is most valued in ourselves and our lives, it is difficult to make the necessary changes to protect ourselves?
“Know thyself” was written on the entrance of the Temple of Apollo at Delphi.
“Know others” and “Know thy stuff” should also be written down somewhere.
Many times when I ask a client what they value in life, they look at me with a blank stare and say uh???…. Also 9 times out of 10 when purging items from client’s homes they state
“I forgot I even had that!! We seem to be a society of blundering and baffling forgetful, and therefore regretful beings. At this stage knowing what you love about life, whether it is about your partner, home, who you hang out with, your furniture, clothing, knick knacks, art-work and stuff is essential to having an ideal lifestyle.
Having an uplifting world around you, that you absolutely love and cherish is important.
Also knowing what you own and having a perfect place for all of it is equally important so you can keep track of it. When we are scattered and unsure, about our world, it reflects in every aspect of our lives, personally and professionally.
So if “Know Thyself” is important, then equally important is “Know Others”.
How do you evaluate and understand who will be great in your life and who is not?
Well, there are many ways to determine who stays and who goes.
It comes back to what you value.
Do you value spirituality, honesty, creativity, friendship, family, support and or fun times, fancy places, fancy people, partying, gossip, attention, money, work, productivity, alone time, shopping or just “hanging out”?
Figure out what the top 15 things in life are that you value.
You want the people in your life to have similar values.
I promise having someone with conflicting ideas and philosophies may be great in a debate, but not in your home on a regular basis.
The wrong people mess with the energy of your self and space.
Techniques for self-protection and building up self-knowledge are many.
Look up articles on how to establish boundaries.
Learn how to say the N word (NO).
Write 30 things you want in ideal people around you.
Write the list of ideal people in the positive, for instance instead of
NO drug addicts write addiction free.
Study your list and KNOW IT.
Circle criteria on your list you want to work on.
Become your own ideal person.
When you meet new people ask questions to see if they meet your criteria.
Having criteria for allowing people into your life and space is IMPORTANT.
Visualizing a reverse mirror surrounding yourself and your home is a very powerful method of keeping out “the negatives”.
Surrounding yourself with blue light.
Contemplate 20 minutes per day on what you want out of life.
Sing HU (sounds like HUGH), an ancient sound of self-protection.
Get a safe for valuables.
Change locks regularly.
Install a simple surveillance system.
Self and space protect.
When it comes to protecting your body, which is the most important aspect of self and space protection, eating healthy is the first step.
Eating organic is important, I promise.
What is being sprayed on coffee, tea leaves, fruit trees and our vegetables is PURE POISON!
Drinking certain coffee/tea brands is like drinking liquid pesticide.
MAKE SURE YOUR COFFEE and TEA IS ORGANIC.
Your fruit and vegetables can be washed and most of the pesticides can be washed off but you
cannot wash and won’t wash your coffee beans and or your tea leaves.
Ideally you will eat all organic.
Also all of your flesh or meat, chicken, turkey and pork products raised
without hormones and fed pesticide free foods is a really good idea!
All animals raised without cages, free to roam is a good idea.
When animals are stuck in small spaces, where they can’t move around, they become extremely agitated and start to get diseases caused by extreme anxiety, such as cancer.
When the animal you eat gets cancer, you are eating cancer.
A Cal Tech Scientist told me this theory of eating “cancer chickens” in
the early 80’s. Decrease white flour products, corn starch, and food with dye, corn syrup, refined sugar products and most of all hydrogenated oil products (causes cancer).
Sugar substitutes, according to lab rat studies cause cancer.
Stevia is a good option, since it is from a plant. Agave is another great sweetner.
Take a look in your pantry and get rid of the products that are slowly and or quickly killing you.
Also take a look at your beauty products. Do your hair products, body lotions and creams have hydrogenated oil, sulfates, and dyes? Hair dyes are toxic.
Find products for hair coloring like AVEDA products or natural plant based hair dyes such as
herbatint http://www.herbatint.co.uk/ for chemical free hair coloring. It works just as good as the smelly and harmful hair dyes that are regularly seeping into your scalp and system.
Bottom line is Self and Space Protection comes from the inside out AND the outside in.
Marla Stone is a Professional Organizer, Lifestyle Coach, Decor & Feng Shui Specialist, Author and Public Speaker, Actress
Contact Marla at www.i-deal-lifestyle.com or call for a free 30 minute consult at 949-709-7000