"I need to go to the bank." "I need your help." "I need a cup of coffee". Modern language is filled with "I need" statements. In fact, most individuals use this phrase in each spoken sentance. But are we describing things we must do? Do our lives unconditionally depend on that cup of java, or did we just want it to stave off the mid-afternoon slump?
What a person actually needs is easily listed on your fingers. Humans need air, food, water, shelter, sleep, elimination, and sunlight. The seven human necessities are the only things absolutely essential to human survival. When people say they "need" something separate from this list they are improperly expressing themselves. Some may dismiss this notion, arguing the phrase has adapted to mean something else - a figure of speech that outgrew its original definition. However, its use could lead to unnoticed, but impactful consequences.
People who regularly tell themselves they "need" inessential things are confusing their subconscious selves. Deep down everybody knows what they truly need. It is not that new rug, new phone, and new car. One may "want" these things very much, but when they're expressed as a need, the subconscious mind will derail and prevent the desire from ever reaching fruition. Regularly declaring you need to do something will cause you to not do it at all!
Luckily, a simple solution for this language exists. Instead of proclaiming what you need, decide what you want and what you will do to get it. Replacing the phrase "I need" with "I will" will help you follow through with your decisions and do what you truly want to.
This approach to needy language is a core principle of I-Deal-Lifestyle's methods of organization. I-Deal-Lifestyle is a professional organizing company in Orange County, California. They help people all over find out If something is useful, has a purpose, is sentimental, or if it simply loved. Marla Stone the owner explains "The I-Deal-Lifestyle criteria makes it easy to figure out what to keep in your space." She wants to you to remember "You don't need any of your possessions," but by employing the helpful criteria and decisive language techniques you can have your space organized in no time and forever.
For professional organization services in Orange County, Los Angeles, and San Diego, contact Marla Stone for a free 30 minute phone consultation at 949-709-7000
Marla earned her BA in Psychology and a Master's in Social Work and is the founder of I-Deal-Lifestyle, a Self and Space Organization Service.