"I need to go to the bank." "I need your help." "I need a cup of coffee". Modern language is filled with "I need" statements. In fact, most individuals use this phrase several times per day. But are we describing things we must do? Do our lives unconditionally depend on that diet coke, or did we just want it to stave off the mid-afternoon slump?
What a person actually needs is easily listed on your fingers. Human beings need air, food, water, shelter, sleep, elimination, and sunlight. These seven human necessities are the only things absolutely essential to human survival. When people say they need something separate from this list, they are improperly expressing themselves. Some may dismiss this notion, arguing the phrase has adapted to mean something else - a figure of speech that outgrew its original definition. However, its use could lead to unnoticed, but impactful consequences.
People who regularly tell themselves they need inessential things are confusing their subconscious selves. Deep down, everybody knows what they truly need, and that new rug, new phone, and new car don't fit the bill. One may want these things very much, but when they're expressed as a need, the subconscious mind will respond, "No you don't!", preventing the desire from ever reaching fruition. Regularly declaring you need to do something will cause you to not do it at all!
Luckily, a simple solution for this language exists. Instead of proclaiming what you need, decide what you want and what you will do to get it. Replacing the phrase "I need" with "I will" will help you follow through with your decisions and do what you truly want to.
This approach to needy language is a core principle of I-Deal-Lifestyle's methods of organization. If something is useful, has a purpose, is sentimental, or is simply something you love, it belongs in your home. You don't need any of your possessions, but by identifying what you truly want, you can sensibly decide what you will keep. By employing this decisive language throughout the process of home organization, our clients keep their homes and possessions tidy long after the organizers have left.
For professional organization services in Orange County contact Marla Stone
Marla is known as the organizing clutter therapist®. Marla earned her BA in Psychology and a Master's in Social Work and is the founder of I-Deal-Lifestyle, a Self and Space Organization Service.